Hello out there.. I am a single parent of 3 boys. Ages 14, 11 and 3. Where do I start.... August 2003 my 11 yr olds dad passed away. He was a victim of gang initation. August 2006 my 14 yr old lost his dad from a sudden heart attack. 2007 my youngest son's dad and I ended our relationship which also ended his realationship with the boys. He had been by boyfriend off and on since 9th grade. May 2009 my 14 yr old lost his grandfather(dad's father). This is when it all started. My 14 yr old has always had some problems in school. Preschool and Kinder they were conducting child study teams. 1st grade he was diagnoised with ADD and 3 1/2yrs speech delay(receptive and expressive). He started medication and life was going well. He graduated from speech 2 years later and was actually held back in the 2nd grade because he was still having a hard time catching up. He did well and went off to middle school. That was right about the time his father passed away. He shut down some at school and was evaluated for ED (emotionaly disturbed) and qualified. So then he was put into a special day class at another school. I will cut to the chase. I exited him out of that placement and he did well in regular ed with resource as he has always had. So a month before his 7th grade ended his grandfather passed from Cancer. Behaviors really started to esclate after this. Defiance to authority, problems at home, lies, slight bullying. Many of these started before the death. So again let me try and fast forward ahead. This school year he has attended 3 different schools from Aug to Oct (due to the fact that he was continously being suspended for bullying, stealing, and defiance) and was expelled for lighting a girls hair on fire. At that point I decided to home school him. Last weekend he decided to run away over a very small issue and there wasnt even an argument. At the end of the weekend I took him to a run a way shelter for youth, where he was allowed to stay 14 days after one week. I get a call saying he can no longer stay because he urinated over someones bed and spread feces over the bed. He also urinated in her koolaid and she drank it. I was out of town and the police was called and they put him on a 51/50 and after evaluation was admitted into a psychartic hospital. He has been there for 4 days and they extended the 51/50 to a 52/50. They were thinking add is not an issue and possible bipolar disorder then today they are saying Conduct disorder. There has been other situations with feces which concerns them. They say he is not at harm to himself or others and is close to coming home. They say that these issues will result in him being in jail. I am very afarid of him coming home. Can ANYONE give me advise. And yes, we had all types of counseling and he has a current counselor and psychiatric. Please HELP..... Sorry so long.