Hi everyone. I found this site when I was researching ODD. Our difficult child is a 14 year old boy. He has always pushed the limits but is now out of control. He lies, steals, sneaks out at night, is very defiant, is disrespectful (especially in school) but he can also be charming, he's well liked by kids, he's funny. We believe he is using pot. Running with a totally different crowd. We've had him on a very tight leash, trying to make sure that he is doing what he says he is. Everything blew up on Monday when we suspected that he had pot in his pocket. husband asked him if he had anything in his pocket. difficult child said, "No". husband asked him to pull out his pockets so we could be sure. difficult child ran out of the house and ditched whatever he had. (Come to find out it was most likely money because I discovered $100 was missing). To make a long story short, difficult child ran away and we haven't got him back home yet. Filed missing persons/runaway report with police. We have been tracking him all around town but are always one step behind. His "good" friends don't know where he is. His "bad friends" are covering for him. He has absolutley no reason not to come home. We are loving and caring. We have a nice home on a lake and he is not deprived. We are not abusive (although difficult child thinks that not letting him do whatever he wants is abusive) My question is, when we do hopefully get him back home, what should we do? We don't think just taking him to counceling locally is going to help right now. We need to intervene...fast, before something terrible happens. We can't keep going on like this. I haven't slept in days. Wilderness program for the summer? Residential Treatment Facility? What's working for you? Thanks for listening. Any advice is appreciated.