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fishingbuddy
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We have a 15 year old, very athletic son that is about to complete a wilderness program. Went there because of anxiety/depression, problems with friends and destructive anger issues. He has made great progress at wilderness.
His therapist has been surprised at how hard he has worked on his issues, that he wanted to go on a 3 day solo (which he completed even though he did not even like to spend the night out with friends when he was home) and that my son wants to, and will, go into a leadership role within the group even though he is one of the youngest in his group.
We are now trying to decide whether to bring him home or send him to a therapeutic boarding school. We have a very solid family atmosphere and have been thinking about using a transition firm to help with establishing a behavioral contract and coaching us as parents. My son also has good therapist and doctor here at home. Our big concern/question is can whether he fit back in with his peers and build solid friendships. The deterioration in friendships led to most of the problems of depression and anger.
The wilderness program has suggested that he would benefit from a Positive Peer Culture therapeutic boarding school but has not said that it is totally necessary. Our educational consultant has the same position.
Most wilderness programs seem to recommend that around 90 percent or more of thier students go on to sometime of residential treatment center or TBS. It is very hard to send your son away for 14-18 months at a price of $4k to $6k a month based on a recommendation that he would "benefit" from it. Don't get me wrong, we are committed to doing whatever is best for our son, but we are not in the habit of making such large decisions without thoroughly understanding the issue.
As we look at TBS, most seem to have 14-16 month programs and are very strict on family visits, phone calls and visits. There seem to be none that are 6 to 12 months (or 12-16 months for that matter) that heavily integrate families into the process through visits and joint training programs.
The three main questions I have are:
1. What kind of experience does anyone have in bringing thier child home after wilderness and what were the results?
2. What kind of experience does anyone have in sending their child to TBS after wilderness and what were the results?
3. Who knows of any very good TBS that is good for a very athletic and academically gifted 15 year old boy where the program believes in family involvement and visits and the TBS has a Positive Peer Culture approach?
Thanks!
Fishingbuddy
His therapist has been surprised at how hard he has worked on his issues, that he wanted to go on a 3 day solo (which he completed even though he did not even like to spend the night out with friends when he was home) and that my son wants to, and will, go into a leadership role within the group even though he is one of the youngest in his group.
We are now trying to decide whether to bring him home or send him to a therapeutic boarding school. We have a very solid family atmosphere and have been thinking about using a transition firm to help with establishing a behavioral contract and coaching us as parents. My son also has good therapist and doctor here at home. Our big concern/question is can whether he fit back in with his peers and build solid friendships. The deterioration in friendships led to most of the problems of depression and anger.
The wilderness program has suggested that he would benefit from a Positive Peer Culture therapeutic boarding school but has not said that it is totally necessary. Our educational consultant has the same position.
Most wilderness programs seem to recommend that around 90 percent or more of thier students go on to sometime of residential treatment center or TBS. It is very hard to send your son away for 14-18 months at a price of $4k to $6k a month based on a recommendation that he would "benefit" from it. Don't get me wrong, we are committed to doing whatever is best for our son, but we are not in the habit of making such large decisions without thoroughly understanding the issue.
As we look at TBS, most seem to have 14-16 month programs and are very strict on family visits, phone calls and visits. There seem to be none that are 6 to 12 months (or 12-16 months for that matter) that heavily integrate families into the process through visits and joint training programs.
The three main questions I have are:
1. What kind of experience does anyone have in bringing thier child home after wilderness and what were the results?
2. What kind of experience does anyone have in sending their child to TBS after wilderness and what were the results?
3. Who knows of any very good TBS that is good for a very athletic and academically gifted 15 year old boy where the program believes in family involvement and visits and the TBS has a Positive Peer Culture approach?
Thanks!
Fishingbuddy