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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 671639" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Gina, I'm so sorry and welcome to this forum. </p><p></p><p>My son's story is very similar to what you wrote. My son started using alcohol and pot and cigarettes and a hookah and then went to prescription pills (and who knows what else, I have found all kinds of drug paraphernalia over the years), and then to jail multiple times, homelessness multiple times and rehab. Almost 18 months ago he started turning his life around. </p><p></p><p>Some people evidently can use pot and other substances like alcohol and some can't without losing their whole lives. My son couldn't and can't. </p><p></p><p>I am completely against pot being legal because of that...do we really need another drug like alcohol to distract us from our real lives and allow a whole group of people to go down the tubes. that is a subject for another post.</p><p></p><p>Gina, while he is still a minor, seek whatever help is available to you, including law enforcement. I put way too much emphasis on "him not having a record." Really? Really? How was I to know the future and that a record would be the least of my worries.</p><p></p><p>I would go and talk to the police, to the mental health people in your town, to nonprofit groups who work with kids and adolescents and young adults (they all have social workers on staff)...to his therapist or find a new therapist. To his physician. To anybody and everybody. </p><p></p><p>You need help. You can't fix this. Once he turns 18, you will have very little legal ability to intervene and the stakes get much higher.</p><p></p><p>There is no guarantee that all of this research and asking for help will change what he does and how the future plays out, but it is worth a try.</p><p></p><p>I didn't realize the depth of my son's problems until he was 19. I have called the police on him multiple times for different things. They have always been helpful and compassionate. </p><p></p><p>My son had every advantage in life but he decided to go down a path. Now, he is digging himself out of the deep hole HE DUG. This is important work that he is doing to learn how to be a functioning adult.</p><p></p><p>It is never too late. My perspective has totally changed.</p><p></p><p>If your son continues down this path, when he turns 18 follow through with what you told him. He will have to learn to live life on life's terms. If you get too involved, he won't be able to do that.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting. We are here for you. We really do understand how hard this is. Warm hugs this morning.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 671639, member: 17542"] Gina, I'm so sorry and welcome to this forum. My son's story is very similar to what you wrote. My son started using alcohol and pot and cigarettes and a hookah and then went to prescription pills (and who knows what else, I have found all kinds of drug paraphernalia over the years), and then to jail multiple times, homelessness multiple times and rehab. Almost 18 months ago he started turning his life around. Some people evidently can use pot and other substances like alcohol and some can't without losing their whole lives. My son couldn't and can't. I am completely against pot being legal because of that...do we really need another drug like alcohol to distract us from our real lives and allow a whole group of people to go down the tubes. that is a subject for another post. Gina, while he is still a minor, seek whatever help is available to you, including law enforcement. I put way too much emphasis on "him not having a record." Really? Really? How was I to know the future and that a record would be the least of my worries. I would go and talk to the police, to the mental health people in your town, to nonprofit groups who work with kids and adolescents and young adults (they all have social workers on staff)...to his therapist or find a new therapist. To his physician. To anybody and everybody. You need help. You can't fix this. Once he turns 18, you will have very little legal ability to intervene and the stakes get much higher. There is no guarantee that all of this research and asking for help will change what he does and how the future plays out, but it is worth a try. I didn't realize the depth of my son's problems until he was 19. I have called the police on him multiple times for different things. They have always been helpful and compassionate. My son had every advantage in life but he decided to go down a path. Now, he is digging himself out of the deep hole HE DUG. This is important work that he is doing to learn how to be a functioning adult. It is never too late. My perspective has totally changed. If your son continues down this path, when he turns 18 follow through with what you told him. He will have to learn to live life on life's terms. If you get too involved, he won't be able to do that. Keep posting. We are here for you. We really do understand how hard this is. Warm hugs this morning. [/QUOTE]
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