Hello all. Nothing critical, just the same old spiel about difficult child Peripheral Fallout.... Our difficult child is doing GREAT! And we're proud of him! However.....sometimes the issue can be difficult child Peripheral Fallout. For years and years and years, I figured people would understand how hard it is raising a difficult child. But, nooooo....this world loves to blame it all on the parents. Free Will seems to be completely eliminated for some. Granted, until we raised our difficult child for years, even I didn't grasp the extent of the challenge (euphemism). I know they don't "get it". But do they have any idea how their words can hurt? Probably not (I hope, anyway). But, still.... Feeling a bit less "Zen" at the moment because I just got a bit of a lecture from an unexpected source at an unexpected time (when things are better). I know that people can't relate to REAL (and I mean REAL) Tough Love with REAL boundaries, but, still.... Why is this world so quick to hold everyone accountable for deeds EXCEPT the deed-doer?