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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 636540" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>PS --- Decided I know better than to let anything unnecessary "fester" inside me for too long. So, pondered it for a few minutes and chose to express myself to the "lecturer". I'm not about "bashing" anyone. Nor am I about "being bashed". My feelings matter, too.</p><p></p><p>So, I wrote her a brief note (she lectured me in writing) expressing how much our friendship mattered. And that, because of that, I wished to share that blaming us (the parents) was incorrect. The DOER of the deed is, in fact, the DOER of the deed (I omitted the CAPS in her note). And I ended by reiterating how much our friendship mattered, so please think before you speak on this delicate matter -- be more careful and respectful with words. We all have kids and we all love our kids.</p><p></p><p>Honesty and boundaries work for more than just difficult child stuff. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p><p></p><p>Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand that felt great! Never helps me if I let something "fester" for long. I try to confront it first. That doesn't always work for me. So, when that happens, just let it go. Too much to carry an extra load of "festering" when life presents its own loads to carry.</p><p></p><p>And, what's to be grateful for in this? Well............the freedom and ability to express myself, that I have friends who do matter to me (even if I don't like a certain thing they do), and that I can CHOOSE to move on. Not always so great at moving on, but learning better one action at a time! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> (Now, if only life didn't present so many opportunities to learn to "move on"! LOLOL!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 636540, member: 18284"] PS --- Decided I know better than to let anything unnecessary "fester" inside me for too long. So, pondered it for a few minutes and chose to express myself to the "lecturer". I'm not about "bashing" anyone. Nor am I about "being bashed". My feelings matter, too. So, I wrote her a brief note (she lectured me in writing) expressing how much our friendship mattered. And that, because of that, I wished to share that blaming us (the parents) was incorrect. The DOER of the deed is, in fact, the DOER of the deed (I omitted the CAPS in her note). And I ended by reiterating how much our friendship mattered, so please think before you speak on this delicate matter -- be more careful and respectful with words. We all have kids and we all love our kids. Honesty and boundaries work for more than just difficult child stuff. :D Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaand that felt great! Never helps me if I let something "fester" for long. I try to confront it first. That doesn't always work for me. So, when that happens, just let it go. Too much to carry an extra load of "festering" when life presents its own loads to carry. And, what's to be grateful for in this? Well............the freedom and ability to express myself, that I have friends who do matter to me (even if I don't like a certain thing they do), and that I can CHOOSE to move on. Not always so great at moving on, but learning better one action at a time! :D (Now, if only life didn't present so many opportunities to learn to "move on"! LOLOL!) [/QUOTE]
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