My son has ADHD, but there are times when it veers into ODD. We homeschool because along with the behavior problems he also has severe learning disabilities. He has always been homeschooled. He's 9 year old and in fourth grade, but doing third grade work. I feel like I've reached the end of my rope: he's cursing me, refusing to do schoolwork, tantruming and even hitting. I'm thinking about sending him to public school, but here's what gives me pause 1. school refusal - if he doesn't want to go somewhere he will lose it with complete meltdowns than can be violent where he screams and curses us. 2. he once hit his Occupational Therapist (OT), which leads me to believe he might hit his teacher and I'm fully aware of the consequences for that. 3. He's very peer oriented and if he fell in with the wrong crowd (which, let's face it - with Learning Disability (LD) and behavior problems, who is he likely to end up around?) 4. The structure of school is unfamiliar to him and would mean a lot of anxiety attacks and acting out. My husband would send him to boarding school if we could afford it. I just don't know what to do. The cursing and the nastiness are really starting to wear me down. I'm sorry if this doesn't make any sense. My thoughts are kind of jumbled right now.