Well since our last therapy appointment difficult child has not scheduled a new one. The therapist suggested that we put scheduling the next appointment in her hands since she was complaining about it and it was basically a waste of time. I basically have not heard from her. She talks to her dad and when I feel there is something she needs to know I have him discuss it with her. We don't discuss her at the house with easy child unless easy child brings it up and then we try to keep the conversations positive. Anyway my parents had been planning this Spring Break trip to the Dominican Republic and they wanted us all to go on it. After difficult child moved out husband and I decided that we were not interested in going but that we would still help with the fees for our girls to go. Of course there has been no communication between me and my parents since difficult child moved in with them. So I had no idea how much was needed or when it was needed. I had husband call yesterday and speak to my father about the trip and what was going on since we are now only 1 month out from Spring Break and I hadnt heard anything. Turns out they aren't going to the Dominican just heading to the Florida Keys. While husband was making the call to my dad easy child was in with her therapist and I guess decided to discuss it with him. easy child came out and told husband she does not want to go because she doesn't want to walk on eggshells around difficult child and she doesn't want to spend time with my mom because she is difficult. easy child has been complaining about spending time with grandma for years and we have always been there to make her keep that relationship open. But now she is 13 and honestly if she doesn't want to go I am not forcing her. Neither husband nor I have said anything to influence her decision we honestly want her to go so she can have some time with her sister before we move away. So last night easy child called the grands to let them know. I guess my mom made some comment about easy child not wanting to spend time with her. Then comes the Facebook post from difficult child. "You take my sister and you ruined my Spring Break." I knew it was aimed at me but I refused to play her games. husband on the other hand replied and pointed out that it was easy child's choice and that we had nothing to do with it. difficult child told him that he should make easy child go. husband then replied and said maybe if easy child wasn't so worried about having issues with you and grandma she would want to go. difficult child's last comment was "fine." LOL husband has not learned to let it go. We are going to get blamed no matter what. There is no point in even replying and playing her head games. What really makes me mad is that my parents are allowing this and doing nothing other than trying to make easy child feel bad for not wanting to go. Either way difficult child is so focused on herself she doesn't think about anyones feelings but her own. I miss her greatly but I am not going to spend every day trying to contact her and get a reply. It has to be a give an take.