husband and I spent the entire day in the ER with difficult child yesterday. She called first thing in am complaining of a bad pain in her right side. I told her to go to the local GP. She took the bus there, I dropped off a copay check and went out. One hour later, the doctor sent her to the ER saying it might be her appendix. At first things moved quickly there and difficult child was appropriate when getting attention and help. But then an ambulance came, and things got bogged down terribly. difficult child was hungry and was complaining left and right that she wanted a sandwhich and a cigarette....this was after they gave her some pain medication. I told her repeatedly that she needed to be respectful of the people in great pain and quiet herself. This only slowed her down a little. Eventually, husband yelled and her and she improved. They took many xrays, a urine sample and blood work and found nothing. We went home late in the evening. I'm exhausted. Questions: 1. Would it have been appropriate to yell at her at the onset when she started complaining about needing food and a sandwhich loudly in the ER? What about leaving her there? husband says if we had threated to leave, she would have simply followed and if she really did have appendicitis, she may have died. 2. If she continues to complain of side pain, should I take her to another Dr. or let it go? Should I see if she complains for an extended period of time before I proceed? 3. difficult child has gained a lot of weight. She is very large now. Can excessive weight cause a person to have this type of pain?