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<blockquote data-quote="wife of taxman" data-source="post: 52898" data-attributes="member: 3830"><p>Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I will definitely get the book and look at the websites. I went back to my counselor and she suggested getting him tested by someone else other than the school system to see if he has any other issues other than the ADD. The school tested him and he did not have any Learning Disability (LD) but he just seems to have a disconnect somewhere between brain and hand. I often feel like I am stumbling in he dark looking for something to help him. I know he doesn't need 'fixing' in my head, yet I feel driven to find an explanation to what is going on in his head that makes sense to me. He is so inconsistent that even the teachers are often stumped. One day he seems to know all the material they are teaching and the next he knows nothing. One day he comes home with A's, the next F's. It just doesn't make sense. I really am okay with who he is.</p><p></p><p>It's the excuses that drive me crazy. He doesn't want to put something away because his sister used it, he doesn't want to do that because he's tired. I want to grab him by the ear and drag him around. I think that is where the most frustration is.</p><p></p><p>I TOTALLY understand the point about him "not picturing things". Mine is like that too. He also can't put words to paper. If you ask him to explain something that might take you and I a paragraph, he would give you a sentence. </p><p></p><p>Being that my husband is ADD I have talked to him about his experience in school. He was generally humiliated and struggled through all his years in school. I live to change that legacy for my son. I just don't want him to struggle in school and I don't want him to have low self esteem and lose multiple jobs because of organization issues. I don't want him to be an alcoholic (my husband has been sober for 20 years). I want more for my son than all that. I guess I need to remind myself that my son is not my husband but knowing what I know about having ADD and living as an adult I feel like he needs certain skills and it frustrates me when he just doesn't seem to have them. </p><p></p><p>Does that make sense?</p><p></p><p>You all have been great with your comments. Thanks so much for the support. I will keep reading.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="wife of taxman, post: 52898, member: 3830"] Thanks so much for your encouraging words. I will definitely get the book and look at the websites. I went back to my counselor and she suggested getting him tested by someone else other than the school system to see if he has any other issues other than the ADD. The school tested him and he did not have any Learning Disability (LD) but he just seems to have a disconnect somewhere between brain and hand. I often feel like I am stumbling in he dark looking for something to help him. I know he doesn't need 'fixing' in my head, yet I feel driven to find an explanation to what is going on in his head that makes sense to me. He is so inconsistent that even the teachers are often stumped. One day he seems to know all the material they are teaching and the next he knows nothing. One day he comes home with A's, the next F's. It just doesn't make sense. I really am okay with who he is. It's the excuses that drive me crazy. He doesn't want to put something away because his sister used it, he doesn't want to do that because he's tired. I want to grab him by the ear and drag him around. I think that is where the most frustration is. I TOTALLY understand the point about him "not picturing things". Mine is like that too. He also can't put words to paper. If you ask him to explain something that might take you and I a paragraph, he would give you a sentence. Being that my husband is ADD I have talked to him about his experience in school. He was generally humiliated and struggled through all his years in school. I live to change that legacy for my son. I just don't want him to struggle in school and I don't want him to have low self esteem and lose multiple jobs because of organization issues. I don't want him to be an alcoholic (my husband has been sober for 20 years). I want more for my son than all that. I guess I need to remind myself that my son is not my husband but knowing what I know about having ADD and living as an adult I feel like he needs certain skills and it frustrates me when he just doesn't seem to have them. Does that make sense? You all have been great with your comments. Thanks so much for the support. I will keep reading. [/QUOTE]
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