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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 20331" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I do understand, being stuck between a rock and a hard place, Yes, we were in that spot for awhile with husband and oldest difficult child. husband was desperately ill and so was oldest difficult child and I considered leaving husband but his docs and the court said no I could not leave him, becuz he could not function on his own, I was his guardian.....but I had to be taking my oldest difficult child out of town to docs very often and could not find care for husband.....and our court told me I could not leave him as he was considered "helpless" and they would charge me with abandonment of him....but it was interferreing with how well I could care for our child. Then it got really ramped up again when son poked out his eye and I had to have him in surgery and I had to be theer, but oldest difficult child had needs and husband was in ICU elsewhere.....and yes, all the professionals were screaming about their patient and making demands on me, and I was like HEY wait a MINUTE! Yes, oldest difficult child needs me, yes, husband needs me, yes, son needs me, and truth was I was flaring wildly at the time, too and "I" needed me. </p><p>and none of each persons professionals gave a whit about anyone elses needs or what was best for each individual. </p><p>It was extremely complicated, outrageously frustrating.....and I had noone to help with any of it except the professionals. and husband pros did not care what was going on with son or why I had to be with my son at the OR and sons surgeon did not care that husband was close to death, and oldest difficult children psychiatrist did not care cuz she was concerned oldest difficult child was too unstable and suicidal.......and there I was in a massive RA-Lupus flare, running around like a chicken with my heaad cut off......well, not running cuz my arms and legs were affected by my flare...LOL-----and MY doctor was worried it was gonna make critical internal organs fail in me. And poor easy child was at home on her own. </p><p>No, we did not have GALS involved.......but each family members professionals were threatening to take it to that level. The needs of the family overall, as a unit were tossed to the wind. It was awful. </p><p></p><p>Years ago, dhs psychiatrist had suggested sending the kids to fosterhomes so husband could have a quiet environment for awhile. HUH? "scuse me, Another time oldest difficult children therapist suggested sending the other 2 kids to fosterhomes cuz she thought maybe oldest difficult child got PTSD by us having the other 2 children...and they wanted to see if oldest difficult child would do better being an only child? HUH? I beg your pardon, they are ALL our children. </p><p>Yeah, it does get hard, it gets complicated, it can get quite weird.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 20331, member: 1697"] I do understand, being stuck between a rock and a hard place, Yes, we were in that spot for awhile with husband and oldest difficult child. husband was desperately ill and so was oldest difficult child and I considered leaving husband but his docs and the court said no I could not leave him, becuz he could not function on his own, I was his guardian.....but I had to be taking my oldest difficult child out of town to docs very often and could not find care for husband.....and our court told me I could not leave him as he was considered "helpless" and they would charge me with abandonment of him....but it was interferreing with how well I could care for our child. Then it got really ramped up again when son poked out his eye and I had to have him in surgery and I had to be theer, but oldest difficult child had needs and husband was in ICU elsewhere.....and yes, all the professionals were screaming about their patient and making demands on me, and I was like HEY wait a MINUTE! Yes, oldest difficult child needs me, yes, husband needs me, yes, son needs me, and truth was I was flaring wildly at the time, too and "I" needed me. and none of each persons professionals gave a whit about anyone elses needs or what was best for each individual. It was extremely complicated, outrageously frustrating.....and I had noone to help with any of it except the professionals. and husband pros did not care what was going on with son or why I had to be with my son at the OR and sons surgeon did not care that husband was close to death, and oldest difficult children psychiatrist did not care cuz she was concerned oldest difficult child was too unstable and suicidal.......and there I was in a massive RA-Lupus flare, running around like a chicken with my heaad cut off......well, not running cuz my arms and legs were affected by my flare...LOL-----and MY doctor was worried it was gonna make critical internal organs fail in me. And poor easy child was at home on her own. No, we did not have GALS involved.......but each family members professionals were threatening to take it to that level. The needs of the family overall, as a unit were tossed to the wind. It was awful. Years ago, dhs psychiatrist had suggested sending the kids to fosterhomes so husband could have a quiet environment for awhile. HUH? "scuse me, Another time oldest difficult children therapist suggested sending the other 2 kids to fosterhomes cuz she thought maybe oldest difficult child got PTSD by us having the other 2 children...and they wanted to see if oldest difficult child would do better being an only child? HUH? I beg your pardon, they are ALL our children. Yeah, it does get hard, it gets complicated, it can get quite weird. [/QUOTE]
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