tessaturtle
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We got a short notice call inviting us to a team meeting for difficult child at the psychiatric hospital today - when asked if it was at all possible if we could do it tomorrow (due to work) we were told "I have no guarantees the team can meet tomorrow so if you can't come in today, you run the risk that we may discharge him and send him home" !!!
Needless to say we went to the team meeting today. Bio-mom participated by phone. So the psychiatrist spoke most of the meeting and the gist is...difficult child is completely fine! He suggested that we read and do the steps in a book by Russell Barkley - when we said we have read many books, tried many things, and go to numerous workshops, the answer was, well you haven't read this one though. We remind them of his history and previous hospitilization this time of year, also remind them that its not just home, its school that he has MAJOR problems in and they are specialized (so basically what good is one more book or technique on our part going to do if even the pros can't do it). Also, they said his psychologist is not the right one for him and that he needs to go back to the counseling place he was at previously for 8 years (that did not get very far with him - that's why we moved him). They also said we should hire a behavioral consulting firm to come into our house to make parenting recommendations to us. All of this without ever asking us how we do parent and what type of household we have! Amazing, since we have gained residential custody of him (5 yrs), he has made lots of gains due to the structure we keep in the house (for his benefit) - but you can't fix a lifetime of mental illness and maladaptive behaviors!
Oh and they also have not made him do his school work because "he refuses" to do it. Nice.
I could go on and on - overall I was pretty frustrated with the meeting. Bio-mom even said to the staff that they have never kept him long enough in the past to provide any type of help that is lasting.
We did get them to agree to keep him and send him to school from there so that they can see his behaviors.
*sigh*
Needless to say we went to the team meeting today. Bio-mom participated by phone. So the psychiatrist spoke most of the meeting and the gist is...difficult child is completely fine! He suggested that we read and do the steps in a book by Russell Barkley - when we said we have read many books, tried many things, and go to numerous workshops, the answer was, well you haven't read this one though. We remind them of his history and previous hospitilization this time of year, also remind them that its not just home, its school that he has MAJOR problems in and they are specialized (so basically what good is one more book or technique on our part going to do if even the pros can't do it). Also, they said his psychologist is not the right one for him and that he needs to go back to the counseling place he was at previously for 8 years (that did not get very far with him - that's why we moved him). They also said we should hire a behavioral consulting firm to come into our house to make parenting recommendations to us. All of this without ever asking us how we do parent and what type of household we have! Amazing, since we have gained residential custody of him (5 yrs), he has made lots of gains due to the structure we keep in the house (for his benefit) - but you can't fix a lifetime of mental illness and maladaptive behaviors!
Oh and they also have not made him do his school work because "he refuses" to do it. Nice.
I could go on and on - overall I was pretty frustrated with the meeting. Bio-mom even said to the staff that they have never kept him long enough in the past to provide any type of help that is lasting.
We did get them to agree to keep him and send him to school from there so that they can see his behaviors.
*sigh*