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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 658905" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>At 18, it is pretty easy actually. If she doesn't contribute, she does not benefit. Not going to do laundry? Her clothes do not get washed. Period. Won't help with dishes, cooking, etc..? She can eat what she buys, cooks, on dishes she purchases and with utensils she owns. </p><p></p><p>Won't clean the bathrooms? If she has her own, leave her to it and tell her she cannot use the others. Put locks on their doors.</p><p></p><p>If you cannot keep her out of the kitchen, lock the cabinets and leave one open with basic food she does not like. If she is a picky eater, purposely cook foods that the rest of you like and she does not. Isolate her dirty dishes and do what my mother did to my brother: Put them on his bed, upside down,with the wet, crusty, nasty, moldy food in them. With a girl you have even more options. Put them in with her makeup - some WILL end up ruined and don't replace them. Or in with her favorite clothes. Then have the laundry tied up for a few days wtih the rest of the family laundry. After all, she doesn't want to do laundry so she isn't "on the schedule" until 3 days from whenever.</p><p></p><p>Have you considered asking her to pay rent? It doesn't have to be much, but she is an adult now, and supporting herself is no longer your job unless you choose it. If you do, be aware that you may have to go through a legal eviction process if you want her to move out. Of course, you likely would have to do that anyway even without her paying rent if she calls and asks the court or the cops about it</p><p></p><p>does she have a clue how much life costs? I would insist that she take a class in financial responsibility. I know some insurance companies have them designed for 18 yo's so that they can be prepared to face the world. I would do a google search and find one and make her take it. Some classes are online and some are live, so you have to do some searching to find the one that would work for her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 658905, member: 1233"] At 18, it is pretty easy actually. If she doesn't contribute, she does not benefit. Not going to do laundry? Her clothes do not get washed. Period. Won't help with dishes, cooking, etc..? She can eat what she buys, cooks, on dishes she purchases and with utensils she owns. Won't clean the bathrooms? If she has her own, leave her to it and tell her she cannot use the others. Put locks on their doors. If you cannot keep her out of the kitchen, lock the cabinets and leave one open with basic food she does not like. If she is a picky eater, purposely cook foods that the rest of you like and she does not. Isolate her dirty dishes and do what my mother did to my brother: Put them on his bed, upside down,with the wet, crusty, nasty, moldy food in them. With a girl you have even more options. Put them in with her makeup - some WILL end up ruined and don't replace them. Or in with her favorite clothes. Then have the laundry tied up for a few days wtih the rest of the family laundry. After all, she doesn't want to do laundry so she isn't "on the schedule" until 3 days from whenever. Have you considered asking her to pay rent? It doesn't have to be much, but she is an adult now, and supporting herself is no longer your job unless you choose it. If you do, be aware that you may have to go through a legal eviction process if you want her to move out. Of course, you likely would have to do that anyway even without her paying rent if she calls and asks the court or the cops about it does she have a clue how much life costs? I would insist that she take a class in financial responsibility. I know some insurance companies have them designed for 18 yo's so that they can be prepared to face the world. I would do a google search and find one and make her take it. Some classes are online and some are live, so you have to do some searching to find the one that would work for her. [/QUOTE]
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