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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 658922" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, Tanya, I don't really agree. That's unusual. I usually agree with almost everything you say!!! But hear me out.</p><p></p><p>Kids who want to act like adults actually are pretty good usually at doing the chores they have to do. Jumper doesn't LIKE to do chore and may grumble and her room looks like a tornado hit it (and I won't clean it as she is old enough and it's her mess), but she does her own laundry, makes sure her car has gas, gets her homework done, and makes her own decisions about life and they are not decisions such as "I will party all night and I don't have to call because I'm eighteen." She is mature enough to realize we worry and let's us know where she is going and when she'll be home, although she doesn't have to tell us where she is going because we can trust her.</p><p></p><p>I think not doing chores is selfish, however I would NOT attach a child's entire future (her ability to go to college) to just that. We don't know anything about this young adult other than she doesn't do chores. To me that's not enough for such a big step. I suspect there is more, but have to wait for OP to check back in...</p><p></p><p>I do agree she is old enough to pay for her own cell phone, car, gas, and her part of the car insurance. That's forcing responsibly on her and that's part of being an adult.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 658922, member: 1550"] Well, Tanya, I don't really agree. That's unusual. I usually agree with almost everything you say!!! But hear me out. Kids who want to act like adults actually are pretty good usually at doing the chores they have to do. Jumper doesn't LIKE to do chore and may grumble and her room looks like a tornado hit it (and I won't clean it as she is old enough and it's her mess), but she does her own laundry, makes sure her car has gas, gets her homework done, and makes her own decisions about life and they are not decisions such as "I will party all night and I don't have to call because I'm eighteen." She is mature enough to realize we worry and let's us know where she is going and when she'll be home, although she doesn't have to tell us where she is going because we can trust her. I think not doing chores is selfish, however I would NOT attach a child's entire future (her ability to go to college) to just that. We don't know anything about this young adult other than she doesn't do chores. To me that's not enough for such a big step. I suspect there is more, but have to wait for OP to check back in... I do agree she is old enough to pay for her own cell phone, car, gas, and her part of the car insurance. That's forcing responsibly on her and that's part of being an adult. [/QUOTE]
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