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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 652761" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thank you both. This has been weighing heavily on my mind. I've talked to my husband about it and mentioned it to my father as well, although I always add the truth...I hope he lives ten or more years.</p><p></p><p>During these last years my father has actually often listened to the abuse I put up with, which is unusual for him. I think he relates and he has tried to be kind to me. I doubt by the time he goes there will be any regrets or anything left to say. I never get off the phone without saying "I love you." I know this sounds so petty, but in our VERY small family of origin he is the only person, besides my beloved grandmother, who ever treated me like I'm not worse than everyone else and that means a lot to me. I am sad as he wishes his children would all get along, but I have no control over the other two and he knows that too. He also knows I am not what they say, if they even talk about me. I assume Sis, who needs her sounding board, is now bombarding Brother with her stuff about me. Lord knows what she would do if she did not have him to biotch about me to. So sad. Sad anyone is obsessed over a sib they say they hate...</p><p></p><p>I am strongly leaning toward finding out which rabbi is doing the ceremony (or funeral home) and making arrangements to say good-bye before or after the funeral. It will be hard enough and thee is nobody who will be there for me to console. I do like one of my cousins and his mother (Dad's sister), but I'm sure her sons will be there with her for support. I'm not close to anyone. I won't even recognize most. And I doubt my brother will have the type of funeral Dad wants. Sis has already said she will not sit shiva, and, frankly, I couldn't handle seven days in a dark room with my DNA collection either. When I am under that degree of scrutiny and pressure, my mental illnesses can not be held in by my medication. Nobody needs to see a meltdown at a time like that.</p><p></p><p>I don' t like funerals. For myself, I'd like to be cremated and then have my family plant a tree for me (a new life). Everyone will have orders not to even let SIs and Bro know. Ok, this is getting gruesome...lol.</p><p></p><p>Thank you again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 652761, member: 1550"] Thank you both. This has been weighing heavily on my mind. I've talked to my husband about it and mentioned it to my father as well, although I always add the truth...I hope he lives ten or more years. During these last years my father has actually often listened to the abuse I put up with, which is unusual for him. I think he relates and he has tried to be kind to me. I doubt by the time he goes there will be any regrets or anything left to say. I never get off the phone without saying "I love you." I know this sounds so petty, but in our VERY small family of origin he is the only person, besides my beloved grandmother, who ever treated me like I'm not worse than everyone else and that means a lot to me. I am sad as he wishes his children would all get along, but I have no control over the other two and he knows that too. He also knows I am not what they say, if they even talk about me. I assume Sis, who needs her sounding board, is now bombarding Brother with her stuff about me. Lord knows what she would do if she did not have him to biotch about me to. So sad. Sad anyone is obsessed over a sib they say they hate... I am strongly leaning toward finding out which rabbi is doing the ceremony (or funeral home) and making arrangements to say good-bye before or after the funeral. It will be hard enough and thee is nobody who will be there for me to console. I do like one of my cousins and his mother (Dad's sister), but I'm sure her sons will be there with her for support. I'm not close to anyone. I won't even recognize most. And I doubt my brother will have the type of funeral Dad wants. Sis has already said she will not sit shiva, and, frankly, I couldn't handle seven days in a dark room with my DNA collection either. When I am under that degree of scrutiny and pressure, my mental illnesses can not be held in by my medication. Nobody needs to see a meltdown at a time like that. I don' t like funerals. For myself, I'd like to be cremated and then have my family plant a tree for me (a new life). Everyone will have orders not to even let SIs and Bro know. Ok, this is getting gruesome...lol. Thank you again. [/QUOTE]
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