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"Gaslighting": my new favorite word!
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 653688" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>It is how they perceive the situation, I think. They see differently than we do, in these instances. Perhaps there are times we are that way, too. Manipulation would be a form of gaslighting, in a way, right?</p><p></p><p>But respect for the other person comes into play. Or, like it is with our darn kids, they do what they want to whatever we say. But there are people in the world who encourage intimacy and then, blast us out of the water with what they have learned about how we tick.</p><p></p><p>That is gaslighting.</p><p></p><p>And I think they do it absolutely on purpose.</p><p></p><p>We are left shaking our heads and going, "Whoa. What happened." We try to pull all the disparate pieces together and it just doesn't make sense <em>and we assume they know better than we do what happened.</em></p><p></p><p>There goes our locus of control.</p><p></p><p>We no longer trust ourselves to define our situations.</p><p></p><p>Maybe, in the same ways that here on the site our intention is to understand and support one another through growth and change and stability and reperception, there are people determined to destroy those same things.</p><p></p><p>It makes sense that this would be so, but again, I truly do not understand the win.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 653688, member: 17461"] It is how they perceive the situation, I think. They see differently than we do, in these instances. Perhaps there are times we are that way, too. Manipulation would be a form of gaslighting, in a way, right? But respect for the other person comes into play. Or, like it is with our darn kids, they do what they want to whatever we say. But there are people in the world who encourage intimacy and then, blast us out of the water with what they have learned about how we tick. That is gaslighting. And I think they do it absolutely on purpose. We are left shaking our heads and going, "Whoa. What happened." We try to pull all the disparate pieces together and it just doesn't make sense [I]and we assume they know better than we do what happened.[/I] There goes our locus of control. We no longer trust ourselves to define our situations. Maybe, in the same ways that here on the site our intention is to understand and support one another through growth and change and stability and reperception, there are people determined to destroy those same things. It makes sense that this would be so, but again, I truly do not understand the win. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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