I know, I know, ultimatums rarely work out....hahha, but H wasn't following through with his 'plan' (UNplan is more like it). Jan 31st came and went and H never took her keys away. He claims, "Well, she got a job". Yeah, but she doesn't start until tomorrow and the deal was she couldn't use her car except for work until she got her first check/one week - whichever came first. It was a stupid plan anyway, in my opinion, but I did agree to let H have at her. Anyway, girlfriend never came home on Friday night OR Saturday night - never called, etc. I woke up in the middle of the night around 3AM on Friday night/Saturday morning and called her cell. She answered all groggy and said, "oh, I didn't realize what time it was". I just hung up and told her that her sister was coming home Sat and it would be nice if she were home for a while. difficult child texted me at 7AM and asked if I was going to NY. Well, I wasn't because easy child was coming home, but I never answered difficult child's text because I was so angry with her. She called me instead. I said No and she never came home until around 5PM, chatted for a few minutes while she wolfed down leftover pasta and something else, took her medications and then split again (this time with an old friend in tow who she brought home with her as a buffer). I watch on incredulously as H did absolutely nothing. All evening and up until we went to bed, long after easy child went back to school, H asked me over and over, "Where is difficult child? Where is difficult child??" I got so peeved I told him to shut the F up about it already and yelled at him for not following through with ANYTHING EVER!!! difficult child never came home on Sat night either, no call. Late Sunday morning, after H asked me again, "Where is difficult child?", and then called difficult child's cell. difficult child never called back until 4PM and told H that she forgot to call. Well, I've had it by this point because H tells her "You know, we're really upset with you. I think you should come home tonight" and they hang up. After watching the Giants make an amazing win we went to bed. difficult child came in around midnight. This morning, I printed out our original agreement, cut and highlighted the most important parts, added a reminder paragraph and left it for her. In the amended paragraph I told her that this little party has come to an end. That she either shaped up or has to get out. I took her keys from her bag and disconnected the internet cable. If I could have, I would have taken her bed warmer, all the food and electric and heat away as well! I just want to be clear, I don't want her home all the time, God no. I just want her to be respectful of us, our home, and our rules; get a job, be responsible for herself, BATHE regularly and BRUSH HER TEETH, WASH AND DO HER HAIR, clean her clothes. OMG, is that too much to ask? Dicks won't give her a FT position if she's smelly, dirty, has continuous bad breath and smelly hair, calls in sick, is late all the time, etc. And this is how it will be if she doesn't start taking care of herself. She HAS a kidney infection. Our DR gave her a strong antibiotic on Friday to take twice a day with plenty of water to flush things out. She's taken TWO pills all weekend. This kid is going to end up in the hospital hooked up to an IV soon. Oh, and about that. I told her that I was no longer paying her co-pays to see the DR or when she brings herself to the ER or her antibiotics since she's making ZERO effort to care for herself. She's burning the candle at both ends and always running off to be with Monkeyboy that her health is suffering. Not to mention the copay for the NUVA RING that she keeps forgetting to put in and take out. She never got her period this month. She was supposed to put it in yesterday. She had a preggo test when they did the urinalysis test and it came back negative - why didn't she get her period?? If she were preggo with Monkeyboy's baby, I don't think she WOULD get an abortion! She's so infatuated with him. I wish I could post his picture because I don't see the attraction. Ugh. So, that's as far as I got with my plan for today. Today, she is stuck at home. Tomorrow she is supposed to start her job. I feel better, but sick to my stomach. It's a horrible feeling to want her out of the house. Thanks for the vent.