I'm throwing this out there because people on this site have so many great ideas and this is one of our problems. Our difficult child is also gay and we find that therapists and school officials have been and are very very concerned about his social interactions with peers. The problem is that, as a gay guy, in elementary school he only wanted to friends with the girls. They didn't want to be friends with him or thought he was trying to date them. He didn't understand the boys because they rode bicycles and cared about football. So he made no friends at all. Now he has friends at school (the weird kids), but he is still considered AS or autistic in some way. Has anybody else experienced anything like this? The whole diagnosis seems to comes down to whether or not he has friends, but that is so muddled by the confused gender identity that it is hard to tell.