Job: No luck yet. I sent out 6 more resumes in response to ads related to my field at the end of the week. Everyone wants experience even for jobs requiring no special skills so I figured this was still my best shot- and would pay a little better. Then, I contacted the vet's rep at the unemployment office. I get no unemployment so I'm sure I'm on the back burner- their first goal will be to get those taking money from the state off their back. Anyway, I spent all of Friday registering online and doing searches for stuff all over the state only to find nothing I qualify for. The big markets here are government (federal) jobs which I can't do because of the credit issue, IT stuff which I have NO knowledge about, and laborers that require strength I don't have. Anyway, I can go in and talk to this guy next week and he said he'd try to find something for me and said it was good that I'm willing to relocate anywhere in the state. Great- but he can't make someone hire me or create a job where it isn't there. Still, I will go and also call private employment agencies. I should have done that Friday but caught up on the state's website. I talked to my mother on the phone- she knows I'm looking for a job but doesn't know how desparate things are. She's one who would use it against me and bash me for it if she did. She wants difficult child and I to move there- with her. I told her I might need to come and stay a short period of time to look for a job but we wouldn't be living with her. She wants us to move in and this says that difficult child would love it. I have no idea why she thinks she can speak for difficult child or know what he wants. She and difficult child write each other about superficial stuff and haven't spoken in over a year. They haven't seen each other in about 18 months. But she always thinks she knows what others are "really like" and what they want, how they think, etc. I admit, I entertained the thought because it would save a ton of money and I know she's thinking about moving only because of her money situation, and she told me that she needed to start turning things over to me. Oh, and she told me the words you've got to cringe on - "I've changed now". Really? How'd that happen when she doesn't even see anything she's ever done wrong or gotten therapy, etc.? But then I remembered all the bad stuff she's done and how she gets all kinds of things in her head and so forth and so on....you all know the story. I just don't think it could possibly work or be good for difficult child or me. If I thought I could go down there for a week and get a job over 30 miles away and difficult child live independently from her, and not have to see her every time we turned around, I'd probably do that. At least until the economy is better. But I don't think my chances are any better of getting a job there than they are here. My bro is still sending difficult child cards- at Halloween, Christmas, and difficult child's b-day. That's the only time he does anything and the cards always say the exact same thing. He misses difficult child and wants difficult child to contact him and gives a phone #, address, and email address. Love, uncle ABC. difficult child hasn't contacted him in over 2 years and told him he didn't want to live with him or go thru this the last time he did talk to him. It just seems to me that a "normal" uncle would either get the hint and go away or write an apology letter or something "real". To me, what my bro is doing is just antagonizing and I can't help but wonder if that's the point.