klmno
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I apologize for not responding to others' threads much lately- I have been slammed and worn out in between times this week.
I had my first individual visit from the in-home counselor on Monday and we seem to get along great. He seems to think a lot of difficult child and difficult child likes him, too. I know we are all still on our "nice" side and it probably won't last- especially if it gets to a point where I'm supposed to treat difficult child like a room-mate but still be held legally liable if he breaks the law- I'm way past even considering that. Still, we do get along and that helps to have a good start...and it sure can't hurt to have this guy telling PO he finds me and difficult child both to be cooperative and willing to work with him. He told me he thought I was very well adjusted given all that had happened and I nearly fell out of my chair but told him I'd make him a cake if he told PO that. LOL!
I have an appliccation in on that TH and am still waiting to get approval. In the meantime, I went to look at one yesterday that just popped up on online ads Sunday evening and wouldn't mind getting it either but they have an app on it already. I told them to call me if that app didn't get approved. I'll take the first of these two I can get and will keep looking in the meantime.
I had left 3 VMs for the person supposedly handling difficult child's case in Department of Juvenile Justice now to check on criteria and possibility of a day pass since he's been sitting in detention for a mo now. I never got a return call so I called today and asked whoever answered the phone if that person was out of town or had a super because she wasn't retuurning my calls and I was just trying to get some info. Check this out- I was told that person has no super because she's second in charge of the entire reception & diagnostic center (RDC- which has gotten the caseload of the kids in detention reentry). Now, that alone told me they don't have this set up and in place yet because there would be no way they'd be having the assistant superintendent of that division of Department of Juvenile Justice handling each case for all the kids sent to detention reentry. Anyway, then this person proceeded to tell me that they have just assigned the kids on detention reentry to another lady, Ms D, and they connected me to her.
I explained to Ms D that my son has been in detention for a mo now and we still haven't found out criteria for even getting a day pass. She said this is the way it's supposed to happen: PO and detention center are supposed to form a plan for things like day passes and release and send it to them for approval, then if difficult child does what he should according to that "plan" and PO recommends a day pass or release, they review it and either approve it or disapprove it. I told her PO was always telling me they set the criteria (I knew he was the one lying because everyone is always pointing the finger back on him.) I asked her if she had rec'd that "plan" from PO yet. She said she had no idea because she's never even seen my son's file. Well, aren't you in charge of this now? No, not until her super leaves. Then who's in charge now? The only person that has seen my son's file over there has been the asst superintendent and she was out of town all last week. But, she says she is sure that a kid can't get a day pass before being in detention at least 30 days. Not true- the kid in there with difficult child has been in there about 3 days longer than difficult child and already had one and is approved for a second one. Oh- and if PO sent the parole plan that he sent me to them as the "plan" for detention reentry, itt will be interesting to see how they react- how can they approve a plan that has no measurable criteria for day passes or release when this is the entire objective for having a detention reentry to begin with? (I didn't say that to her though- I'm waiting to find out if he even sent them a plan at all yet.) I also asked her what could be done if PO is just sitting on this and not being responsive or submitting what he should be and my son is hanging in limbo sitting in a detention center. She said she would asked the superintendent to return my call. I soooooo hope fed DOJ looks into my complaints- honestly, isn't it illegal to keep a kid incarcerated past his release date on the pretense that the director of Department of Juvenile Justice thinks detention reentry will be in his best interest, yet they don't have that in place yet and no one seems to know what to do or is pursuing what they should be doing so he's really remaining incarcerated while they try to figure out how they want to run this program and get people assigned and in place- yet they have been accepting fed funding for this program for a year??
And, since difficult child is a Junior in HS I have started getting the typical letters from colleges that I know don't mean a lot. But today, I got a letter from the physician for the White House who sponsors a 10-day "forum" for teens who've done well academically and are interested in pursuing a medical profession and it says difficult child was one of those chosen for an invitation. (difficult child still wants to be a vet- still, that's medical) It had some info but says a packet will be forthcoming with more info and an application. It's being held this summer. I'm wondering if this is for real and financially feasible. That could really help him a lot. He'd been invited to do John Hopkins summer courses a couple of times in the past but the kid ended up incarcerated and couldn't go. True difficult child, isn't he?
So, there's my update, Ladies! Sorry so long but thanks for reading!
I had my first individual visit from the in-home counselor on Monday and we seem to get along great. He seems to think a lot of difficult child and difficult child likes him, too. I know we are all still on our "nice" side and it probably won't last- especially if it gets to a point where I'm supposed to treat difficult child like a room-mate but still be held legally liable if he breaks the law- I'm way past even considering that. Still, we do get along and that helps to have a good start...and it sure can't hurt to have this guy telling PO he finds me and difficult child both to be cooperative and willing to work with him. He told me he thought I was very well adjusted given all that had happened and I nearly fell out of my chair but told him I'd make him a cake if he told PO that. LOL!
I have an appliccation in on that TH and am still waiting to get approval. In the meantime, I went to look at one yesterday that just popped up on online ads Sunday evening and wouldn't mind getting it either but they have an app on it already. I told them to call me if that app didn't get approved. I'll take the first of these two I can get and will keep looking in the meantime.
I had left 3 VMs for the person supposedly handling difficult child's case in Department of Juvenile Justice now to check on criteria and possibility of a day pass since he's been sitting in detention for a mo now. I never got a return call so I called today and asked whoever answered the phone if that person was out of town or had a super because she wasn't retuurning my calls and I was just trying to get some info. Check this out- I was told that person has no super because she's second in charge of the entire reception & diagnostic center (RDC- which has gotten the caseload of the kids in detention reentry). Now, that alone told me they don't have this set up and in place yet because there would be no way they'd be having the assistant superintendent of that division of Department of Juvenile Justice handling each case for all the kids sent to detention reentry. Anyway, then this person proceeded to tell me that they have just assigned the kids on detention reentry to another lady, Ms D, and they connected me to her.
I explained to Ms D that my son has been in detention for a mo now and we still haven't found out criteria for even getting a day pass. She said this is the way it's supposed to happen: PO and detention center are supposed to form a plan for things like day passes and release and send it to them for approval, then if difficult child does what he should according to that "plan" and PO recommends a day pass or release, they review it and either approve it or disapprove it. I told her PO was always telling me they set the criteria (I knew he was the one lying because everyone is always pointing the finger back on him.) I asked her if she had rec'd that "plan" from PO yet. She said she had no idea because she's never even seen my son's file. Well, aren't you in charge of this now? No, not until her super leaves. Then who's in charge now? The only person that has seen my son's file over there has been the asst superintendent and she was out of town all last week. But, she says she is sure that a kid can't get a day pass before being in detention at least 30 days. Not true- the kid in there with difficult child has been in there about 3 days longer than difficult child and already had one and is approved for a second one. Oh- and if PO sent the parole plan that he sent me to them as the "plan" for detention reentry, itt will be interesting to see how they react- how can they approve a plan that has no measurable criteria for day passes or release when this is the entire objective for having a detention reentry to begin with? (I didn't say that to her though- I'm waiting to find out if he even sent them a plan at all yet.) I also asked her what could be done if PO is just sitting on this and not being responsive or submitting what he should be and my son is hanging in limbo sitting in a detention center. She said she would asked the superintendent to return my call. I soooooo hope fed DOJ looks into my complaints- honestly, isn't it illegal to keep a kid incarcerated past his release date on the pretense that the director of Department of Juvenile Justice thinks detention reentry will be in his best interest, yet they don't have that in place yet and no one seems to know what to do or is pursuing what they should be doing so he's really remaining incarcerated while they try to figure out how they want to run this program and get people assigned and in place- yet they have been accepting fed funding for this program for a year??
And, since difficult child is a Junior in HS I have started getting the typical letters from colleges that I know don't mean a lot. But today, I got a letter from the physician for the White House who sponsors a 10-day "forum" for teens who've done well academically and are interested in pursuing a medical profession and it says difficult child was one of those chosen for an invitation. (difficult child still wants to be a vet- still, that's medical) It had some info but says a packet will be forthcoming with more info and an application. It's being held this summer. I'm wondering if this is for real and financially feasible. That could really help him a lot. He'd been invited to do John Hopkins summer courses a couple of times in the past but the kid ended up incarcerated and couldn't go. True difficult child, isn't he?
So, there's my update, Ladies! Sorry so long but thanks for reading!
I wouldn't have doubted my invitation. DDD
