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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 704310" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>BG bless you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Keep going to your therapist. Let her help you keep your head on straight. She is right. There is NOTHING you can do for a person who wants no help. They will undo it all faster than you can think. </p><p></p><p>Your son is with his dad---my son's dad kept on and on and on, too, for a long time after I stopped. Let that be enough. Relax into that. Even though you and I know it's enabling...again to try to figure things out for someone who will have NONE of it---throws the card in the trash can as he is walking out the door...just go on that trip and know your exhusband is the first line of defense here, for now. Until he "gets it" too, and he will, in time, when he is ready.</p><p></p><p>I used to be both furious and grateful that my ex-husband, Difficult Child's dad, kept on and on after I stopped. He prolonged the inevitable---the day when everybody finally stopped and my Difficult Child had to face himself full on---and perhaps helping to kill him in the meantime, but he also gave me peace knowing someone who loved him was on guard. It's crazy-making, all fo this.</p><p></p><p>BG...you have come miles and miles. Keep going. You cannot fix this. I wish you could, but you can't. Go, and enjoy and rest and breathe and dance and just be. </p><p></p><p>It will all be here when you get back.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 704310, member: 17542"] BG bless you. Keep going to your therapist. Let her help you keep your head on straight. She is right. There is NOTHING you can do for a person who wants no help. They will undo it all faster than you can think. Your son is with his dad---my son's dad kept on and on and on, too, for a long time after I stopped. Let that be enough. Relax into that. Even though you and I know it's enabling...again to try to figure things out for someone who will have NONE of it---throws the card in the trash can as he is walking out the door...just go on that trip and know your exhusband is the first line of defense here, for now. Until he "gets it" too, and he will, in time, when he is ready. I used to be both furious and grateful that my ex-husband, Difficult Child's dad, kept on and on after I stopped. He prolonged the inevitable---the day when everybody finally stopped and my Difficult Child had to face himself full on---and perhaps helping to kill him in the meantime, but he also gave me peace knowing someone who loved him was on guard. It's crazy-making, all fo this. BG...you have come miles and miles. Keep going. You cannot fix this. I wish you could, but you can't. Go, and enjoy and rest and breathe and dance and just be. It will all be here when you get back. [/QUOTE]
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