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Getting the wiggles out is apparently torture?
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 63432" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Susiestar, you've hit the nail on the head, I think. husband read this over my shoulder and thinks he can recognise the problem.</p><p></p><p>husband: "I'll bet he's been made to do them before and chided for not doing them right. He could have been made to look a fool or feel a fool."</p><p></p><p>He went on to say that if he's got a problem like hypermobile joints (which husband has, as well as difficult child 3, easy child 2/difficult child 2 and possibly difficult child 1) then he is going to seem uncoordinated and could also be not landing properly. The loose joints hurt all the more, especially with sharp, vigourous movements. A poor landing with jumping jacks can also hurt - jarring ankles, knees & hips.</p><p></p><p>Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment is a good way to go, especially if you mention the pain difficult child claims. Admittedly some of that pain could be past embarrassment, but it could be a lot more to it. And PE teachers especially, seem to be the worst when it comes to bullying kids who aren't good at physical things. Not all of them, but enough of them to give the whole mob of them a bad name.</p><p></p><p>I would involve difficult child more in ideas on how to "get over the fidgets". I would NOT use a phrase possibly used by a teacher at school in a situation which probably caused distress. The dancing is a good idea - asking difficult child what else would work for him, involving him in his own management. We used to use a jogging trampoline because we could even use it indoors. It is gentler on joints and the bounces are much more satisfying to a fidgetty child. Storage shouldn't be a problem - you can unscrew the legs and roll it behind a cupboard if necessary.</p><p>Don't describe his fidgettiness as "wriggles" because of the worm connotation, Also, do not say you want to STOP the fidgets, or anything else negative. You may want to damp them down, ease them out, get over them or get past them, but to stop them can be a confronting thought for a child who knows he has trouble keeping still.</p><p></p><p>And the aim shouldn't be to keep still, anyway - it should be to make sure that the physical activity is organised and directed.</p><p></p><p>If he's getting problems at school, a meltdown of this magnitude is quite understandable. I was a easy child and I know how I felt about things like this. And with what I know about at least some of the things difficult child 3 went through at school and I WASN'T told by the school (other kids make brilliant secret agents) then I can understand the degree of distress.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with this one. I think you handled it positively, once you realised this was a problem not of your making and indicating something lurking underneath.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 63432, member: 1991"] Susiestar, you've hit the nail on the head, I think. husband read this over my shoulder and thinks he can recognise the problem. husband: "I'll bet he's been made to do them before and chided for not doing them right. He could have been made to look a fool or feel a fool." He went on to say that if he's got a problem like hypermobile joints (which husband has, as well as difficult child 3, easy child 2/difficult child 2 and possibly difficult child 1) then he is going to seem uncoordinated and could also be not landing properly. The loose joints hurt all the more, especially with sharp, vigourous movements. A poor landing with jumping jacks can also hurt - jarring ankles, knees & hips. Occupational Therapist (OT) assessment is a good way to go, especially if you mention the pain difficult child claims. Admittedly some of that pain could be past embarrassment, but it could be a lot more to it. And PE teachers especially, seem to be the worst when it comes to bullying kids who aren't good at physical things. Not all of them, but enough of them to give the whole mob of them a bad name. I would involve difficult child more in ideas on how to "get over the fidgets". I would NOT use a phrase possibly used by a teacher at school in a situation which probably caused distress. The dancing is a good idea - asking difficult child what else would work for him, involving him in his own management. We used to use a jogging trampoline because we could even use it indoors. It is gentler on joints and the bounces are much more satisfying to a fidgetty child. Storage shouldn't be a problem - you can unscrew the legs and roll it behind a cupboard if necessary. Don't describe his fidgettiness as "wriggles" because of the worm connotation, Also, do not say you want to STOP the fidgets, or anything else negative. You may want to damp them down, ease them out, get over them or get past them, but to stop them can be a confronting thought for a child who knows he has trouble keeping still. And the aim shouldn't be to keep still, anyway - it should be to make sure that the physical activity is organised and directed. If he's getting problems at school, a meltdown of this magnitude is quite understandable. I was a easy child and I know how I felt about things like this. And with what I know about at least some of the things difficult child 3 went through at school and I WASN'T told by the school (other kids make brilliant secret agents) then I can understand the degree of distress. Good luck with this one. I think you handled it positively, once you realised this was a problem not of your making and indicating something lurking underneath. Marg [/QUOTE]
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