Girl Drama

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by tiredmommy, Jun 24, 2013.

  1. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Why?!?! Why do adolescent girls pull this junk with each other?!?!?! When does it stop?!?!?! And should I invest in a winery to get through it?!?!?!?!

  2. Rabbit

    Rabbit Member

    all I can do is send u hugs!
  3. cubsgirl

    cubsgirl Well-Known Member

    yes to the's just beginning for you!
  4. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I found the best thing to do was step away -- they all go through it, some more than others, but they always come out the other side! Unless there is a specific safety concern, my best advise would be to let her handle it and enjoy your wine!

  5. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Oh, I agree, LDM. Duckie has two groups of friends and they're fighting with her stuck in the middle. I'm not taking sides and just keep telling her not to get involved in the rumors and nasty talk and definitely not repeat a word she hears. She needs to be neutral like Switzerland.
  6. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Yes to the winery. Girl drama is the worst to deal with. Hugs, and I hope it all ends quickly.
  7. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Wine......yes....lots of wine.......let's all have wine........lots and lots and chocolates
  8. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Ducky needs the chocolate. SHE's stressed out about it too. (I have one of those too)
    You can have the wine :)
  9. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I think this girl drama must start very early because Keyana is already starting to complain about some girls in her school are "annoying" her. LOL. That was her word. With her accent I had to ask her was it annoying or ignoring...lmao. I am not looking forward to the next years. Tony swears that when she hits 13 she will be heck on wheels. I dont think it will take that long.
  10. Bunny

    Bunny Active Member

    Unfortunately, I remember girl drama all too well! I suggest wine for you and chocolate for Duckie. Good luck!
  11. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Neutral like Switzerland is a great stance for Duckie to take. AND Swiss chocolate is lovely, and might help the situation.
    And yes, a winery is always helpful with girl junk.

    Honestly, I don't think girl junk waits around for puberty. I see it in the park sometimes with Tyrantina and the other little girls. I think it just gets worse, what with hormones and a teenage vocabulary.
  12. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

  13. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Well, Duckie is pretty low today. One group dropped her after the other group let the first group know a few off hand comments she'd made (they all do it, apparently). She's lost friends on one side and can't trust the girls on the other side.
  14. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    That bites. I am so sorry. She has had to learn a crummy lesson on teen girls and trust. Hopefully it will all blow over during the summer, and by the time school starts all will be forgotten and all the girls will be on friendly terms.
  15. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    been there done that, more than once. I think this is why difficult child choose being alone more often than hanging out.
  16. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Summer just started here. She jokingly asked if she could be homeschooled for 7th grade rather than go through another school year of this. :( And she opted for "pity pizza" instead of chocolate. Wild mushrooms and asiago from a nearby upscale bistro.
  17. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    TM, I will swear to the day I die that middle school girls are the vilest creatures on earth. 14 yr olds to be specific. Even my easy child would come home and cry, and she is the most laid back person I have ever met. (And, that is why the majority of easy child's friends are guys.) by the way, tell her she has awesome taste in pizza. Sounds super yummy.
  18. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    That was a bad year for us too. Unfortunately, so was Grade 8. After that, it got a LITTLE better... partly because HS is much bigger, so there's a bigger pool of people to get to know.
  19. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    TM, I agree. Duckie has great taste in pizza.

    As for the girl junk, here's the time when her acting ability comes to the forefront. The key is for her to act as if she doesn't care at all, no matter how badly she's feeling inside. The Mean Girls' power comes from believing that everyone wants to be in their in-crowd. If Duckie acts as though she can take them or leave them, she'll be in a stronger social position. She's already learned what they're made of, so this is another step.

    You couldn't pay me to live through that age again.
  20. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Great idea Trinity.....bring out the actress in her!