Going North

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by Suz, Jun 8, 2008.

  1. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Your soon to be WHAT???!!!

    Okay..........spill it. Tell ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Is he the orderly from the hospital where you had your abdominal surgery?
  3. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    Whoops. Nope...that was my soon to be husband...nearly 25 years ago, and my (to this day) ONLY husband.

    He died of a rare blood disease what will be six years ago in July. Sorry for the confusion: I usually refer to him as L(late)husband, but didn't this time.

    I'm 48 in July and now used to living on my own. husband's can be wonderful and certainly LDH and I had a very happy marriage that ended too soon, but husband's and marriages are also a LOT of work and I don't feel like I have the energy to start over at my age.

    LOL about the orderly from the hospital. I keep running into him at WalMart and he refuses to meet my eyes. Can't blame him...what do you SAY to someone whose butt you wiped?
  4. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Well, darn!

    Glad to hear you are doing well, though. :)

  5. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    "Say there...uhhh, how's your Schnauzer?"

    Yes, I know...joining Star and Abbey in the corner...
  6. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It


    I had the same ????. I agree that husband's can be a lot of work. I am glad you are doing well. And as for what to say to someone who's tushie you wiped, I have NO idea.


  7. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen


    I'm such a literal person. Suz, I thought you were GOING NORTH, like for a vacation, or something.

  8. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    It's called a poodle. (anyone else for the corner?)

    Going North - I saw that too and thought -

    HUH - she's GETTING married and we never got to throw you a cyber shower????
  9. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Ladies, ladies-
    you exhausted that joke on the other thread- :916blusher: Enough already!

    everyone scatter to your respective corners...

  10. Abbey

    Abbey Spork Queen

  11. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member Staff Member

    MamaSuz, you are out of corners, my friend!! LOL!

    Going North - I read that too and searched for the post that I missed about you getting engaged or having a new sweetie.

    It is a lot of work, isn't it!

    Glad you are well.

    6 years already?!?!?
  12. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    Busywend, yeah...keeping a good relationship going takes a huge amt of work. I'm not sure if it is because I'm both on the spectrum and bipolar, or what (and hence spend a lot of time in therapy), but I've always been aware of the work required.

    I KNOW how lucky I was to hook up with husband though I do wish sometimes that I could've been a "better" wife to him. Living with and loving me could not have been easy.

    Yeah...it'll be six years coming up. LDH died the day before my birthday and his memorial service was on what would've been our 20th wedding anniversary.

    We had 25 good years together--the relationship no one thought would work. And, if I had it to do over again...well, there's some things knowing what I know now, that I would've changed, I would've still done it all again...right to the bitter end.

    I promise that if I "hook up" again, you'll be the first to know...right after I figure it out.
  13. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    Well I certainly hope so. :)

    We grieved with you, we agonized over whether or not you should meet that guy in the UK with you, we worried about your move and we've hoped for the best for you all these years.

    And I'm such a dang diehard romantic that I want a few of us to find true love again...and I hope you and I are two of them!

  14. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    Well, the guy in the UK has remarried and is very happy. I still hear from him regularly (his wife is fine with it, especially as I helped out with some ideas for the wedding service and stuff).

    He's an avid "twitcher" (birdwatcher) so has to tell me about his sightings and the like.

    I take life as it comes. If a new relationship comes down the pike I wouldn't say I'd be necessarily adverse, but I surely would be careful.

    It's a huge step, and at my age too many women are willing to "settle", which I won't do--it's not fair to anyone involved.

    I don't "need" anyone to help out financially or anything like that.