I am going to try and keep this as short and clear as I can. This house is falling apart and so am I. We are being held prisoner by difficult children meltdowns/temper tantrums whatever you want to call them. If he doesn't get his way he throws a total fit. If I impose a consequence, he throws a fit. He has refused to go to school since Monday because one of his teachers is "strict" and "mean". Today when I gave him schoolwork to do he did some and then refused to do anymore. He threw a fit banging on doors, screaming, crying until our neighbor who lives across the street came over because he heard him screaming. He works at a home for children like this and told Tommy he doesn't know how good he has it here. The thing he told Tommy is that difficult child (Tommy) stopped the screaming when he heard the doorbell ring and he believes that proves the behavior can be controlled. Is that true? Life is just horrible right now. Financially, we're in the process of bankruptcy and trying to keep our small store open. My husband feels worse than he ever has and then he comes home to this **** all night. Brush Your Teeth...I don't want to. Go to bed...no. on and on and on. The other night difficult child refused to brush his teeth and finally husband shoved the toothbrush in his mouth and he's said it hurts for two days. I can't control either one of them. If difficult child would stop openly defying husband to his face, we'd have no problems but he won't. I am sick of being held hostage. How can I let a kid who was just screaming at me for an hour go out and play? The other thing that bothers me is that some of our best friends (including neighbor) act like difficult child has no diagnosis", which is not true. I don't know where this will end but right now, it's not looking good.