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Going to file charges on 16 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 661792" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>I really don't know how you find out...I don't really understand the root causes of my sons pain? It could be several things but nothing really horrible tha I know about....but whatever the initial issue it has been compounded by his actions and mistakes which he feels a lot of shame about and it just all adds up....and somewhere in the process of his adolescence he learned that using substances helped numb the pain and that fed into his addiction.</p><p></p><p>So I think we as parents want some magic answer that will make it all come clear to them and us and then they will recover and tea la all will be better.</p><p></p><p>Well after many programs, some that were excellent I have come to the conclusion it doesn't work like that. It's all a process and eventually they have to get to the point where they are willing to do the work and deal with the pain.</p><p></p><p>I will say I don't regret all the help and all the times we got him into treatment even when he didn't want it....because I think it gave him some clean brain development time in the process....and it may have helped keep him alive.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 661792, member: 15801"] I really don't know how you find out...I don't really understand the root causes of my sons pain? It could be several things but nothing really horrible tha I know about....but whatever the initial issue it has been compounded by his actions and mistakes which he feels a lot of shame about and it just all adds up....and somewhere in the process of his adolescence he learned that using substances helped numb the pain and that fed into his addiction. So I think we as parents want some magic answer that will make it all come clear to them and us and then they will recover and tea la all will be better. Well after many programs, some that were excellent I have come to the conclusion it doesn't work like that. It's all a process and eventually they have to get to the point where they are willing to do the work and deal with the pain. I will say I don't regret all the help and all the times we got him into treatment even when he didn't want it....because I think it gave him some clean brain development time in the process....and it may have helped keep him alive. [/QUOTE]
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