Thanks all - I am determined to let the light chase out the darkness. My mother is mad that I am bringing it up again but I know she is lying about still being with him. She is just so toxic. She thinks if she ignores something, it won't exist. I see where I got it from. But that stops now. If she can't take the light, she better get out the sunglasses or stay in the house! There is some healing to be done!!