For those who read my post yesterday about easy child being so mean to difficult child, maybe, just maybe, my talk with her helped a bit. I know it was only one day
but she was absolutely wonderful with him today. Played with him, cleaned his room, etc... (she did have her moments but none of the truly nasty stuff with him. Don't know how long it will last but I'll take it.
That was the good! The bad was difficult child's afternoon and evening. When the in-home person was here he was as rude as could be. She is helping husband and I set up a level system and he was flipping her off, calling her names, flipping husband and I off. Grrrr. He lost all Wii for two days.
Then, when it was time to take his late afternoon medications, it was like he snapped. He was asked to quickly take his medications and put a bowl in the dishwasher. easy child got up and took care of her business after we told them both the t.v. would go off if their things weren't taken care of. She tried to get him to.
Finally, we shut off the t.v. He still wouldn't take his medications or put his bowl away. I was making homemade tortillas and he started sticking his fingers (dirty) in the tortilla flour and also tried to steal some of the dough. He wouldn't stop so finally we told him he wouldn't be eating the tortillas with us at dinner.
He still wouldn't take the medications and then tried to steal potatoes as husband was peeling them. We warned him to stop and told him no potatoes for dinner either. Fried potatoes and homemade tortillas are his favorite. He pushed me and ended up on stop the world.
Finally he took his medications. He was very upset and took a steak knife and started stabbing the plastic covering on my calendar. When I asked him to stop he refused so I went to get the knife. He threatened me with it but didn't do anything and I did have to forecibly take it.
He tried stealing the tortillas and potatoes. husband had to stop him by physically moving him.
difficult child would alternate between being upset and thinking everything was hysterically funny. At one point he wa telling how much he hated us all except for easy child (what a switch from yesterday) and that we were not to call him by his first name because he was nothing. The "I hate you" part is normal the being down on himself is not.
easy child really pitched in and took him upstairs, read to him til he fell asleep.
This weekend when he was at respite, we had forgotten to include his Topamax, wish the respite provider had called us and we would have run it over, instead of telling us when we picked him up. I don't if this could have anything to do with it or if he was just being a major pita. Sometimes it is hard to know what is mental health related and what isn't!
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Thanks for listening to all of this, it was just a horrible end to our weekend. I know husband is feeling physically sick from all of this and we're all upset. I did, however, make sure I thanked easy child for all her help today, so did husband. I also played some Wii with her which I think she enjoyed.
but she was absolutely wonderful with him today. Played with him, cleaned his room, etc... (she did have her moments but none of the truly nasty stuff with him. Don't know how long it will last but I'll take it.
That was the good! The bad was difficult child's afternoon and evening. When the in-home person was here he was as rude as could be. She is helping husband and I set up a level system and he was flipping her off, calling her names, flipping husband and I off. Grrrr. He lost all Wii for two days.
Then, when it was time to take his late afternoon medications, it was like he snapped. He was asked to quickly take his medications and put a bowl in the dishwasher. easy child got up and took care of her business after we told them both the t.v. would go off if their things weren't taken care of. She tried to get him to.
Finally, we shut off the t.v. He still wouldn't take his medications or put his bowl away. I was making homemade tortillas and he started sticking his fingers (dirty) in the tortilla flour and also tried to steal some of the dough. He wouldn't stop so finally we told him he wouldn't be eating the tortillas with us at dinner.
He still wouldn't take the medications and then tried to steal potatoes as husband was peeling them. We warned him to stop and told him no potatoes for dinner either. Fried potatoes and homemade tortillas are his favorite. He pushed me and ended up on stop the world.
Finally he took his medications. He was very upset and took a steak knife and started stabbing the plastic covering on my calendar. When I asked him to stop he refused so I went to get the knife. He threatened me with it but didn't do anything and I did have to forecibly take it.
He tried stealing the tortillas and potatoes. husband had to stop him by physically moving him.
difficult child would alternate between being upset and thinking everything was hysterically funny. At one point he wa telling how much he hated us all except for easy child (what a switch from yesterday) and that we were not to call him by his first name because he was nothing. The "I hate you" part is normal the being down on himself is not.
easy child really pitched in and took him upstairs, read to him til he fell asleep.
This weekend when he was at respite, we had forgotten to include his Topamax, wish the respite provider had called us and we would have run it over, instead of telling us when we picked him up. I don't if this could have anything to do with it or if he was just being a major pita. Sometimes it is hard to know what is mental health related and what isn't!
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Thanks for listening to all of this, it was just a horrible end to our weekend. I know husband is feeling physically sick from all of this and we're all upset. I did, however, make sure I thanked easy child for all her help today, so did husband. I also played some Wii with her which I think she enjoyed.