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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 708907" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Speaking of exercise, snd since she asked about changing her life in so many ways, not just losing weight, id like to add that excercize is GREAT for lifting mood and working off stress.</p><p></p><p>Mostly, original poster, you probaby should read books to teach you ways to detach from his drama. Detaching doesnt mean stop loving. That could never happen. It just means to detach from their drama. Learn that at his age he will do what he wants, is unlikely to accept guidance like when he was small, and has to learn himself. Or not. You cant force a grown man to do better. That is 100% up to him. So there is no point for you, no matter how your heart burns with love, to take on his challenges and drama. It wont help you. It wont change him.</p><p></p><p>If you get busy with your own life and detach from his drama (even though you stilll love him) you will feel better all the way around. You brought your son into your heart. We all do. Anyone in our heart can hurt us. But you can keep him tucked in a loving part of your heart and live your own life too. It is actually good in my opinion for your son to see you living life. It is a healthy example.</p><p></p><p>Take gentle care of you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 708907, member: 1550"] Speaking of exercise, snd since she asked about changing her life in so many ways, not just losing weight, id like to add that excercize is GREAT for lifting mood and working off stress. Mostly, original poster, you probaby should read books to teach you ways to detach from his drama. Detaching doesnt mean stop loving. That could never happen. It just means to detach from their drama. Learn that at his age he will do what he wants, is unlikely to accept guidance like when he was small, and has to learn himself. Or not. You cant force a grown man to do better. That is 100% up to him. So there is no point for you, no matter how your heart burns with love, to take on his challenges and drama. It wont help you. It wont change him. If you get busy with your own life and detach from his drama (even though you stilll love him) you will feel better all the way around. You brought your son into your heart. We all do. Anyone in our heart can hurt us. But you can keep him tucked in a loving part of your heart and live your own life too. It is actually good in my opinion for your son to see you living life. It is a healthy example. Take gentle care of you. [/QUOTE]
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