Mayapple5
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A normal day starts out with me waking difficult child at 7:00 for school with a kiss and a cheerful hug. Within two minutes she is yelling and crying about having to get up and go down stairs and getting dressed. Same routine every morning. I've tried to change what I do but to no avail.
Well, this morning she was going to be staying home because the preK was going to have thier Christmas party and they were going to have lots of sugary snacks and the teacher agreed that keeping difficult child home would be best. I had a wonderful day planned for the two of us. I woke her up the usual way but let her stay in her pj's for breakfast and that made her so happy. At one point, while she was eating breakfast, I slowly turned around from the doing dishes and said "uh, oh, I feel something happening" and I slowly walked over to her and bent down and gave her a great big hug and a kiss. Then I just turned and walked away. She said I scared her. I then went back to her and explained that I was going to do that all day. I was going to surprise her all day with hugs and kisses. And I have, too. Not only have I surprised her today, But she slowly snuck up on me and told me to bend down and she said. " I feel something happening to me mommy, and she gave me a big kiss and a hug and was even rubbing my back as she gave me a hug. It was the most awesome feeling!
Oh, how they surprise us sometimes!
We go to church on Wed. nights and she belongs to a Prek class. Believe it or not there is a little girl who is a whole lot worse than she is, actually she is an angel at church in class! But she made a comment that "K____y is a naughty girl, she doesn't behave in class, she doesn't listen at all". I thought that was good that she could recognize that in someone else, I think I will use that example next time she displays some of that behavior at home and see if she can recognize herself. We just got a video camera and if I can catch that behavior on film and show it back to her I think she can see herself misbehaving the way K____y does. Has anyone tried this with their difficult child? Has it worked?
Connie
Well, this morning she was going to be staying home because the preK was going to have thier Christmas party and they were going to have lots of sugary snacks and the teacher agreed that keeping difficult child home would be best. I had a wonderful day planned for the two of us. I woke her up the usual way but let her stay in her pj's for breakfast and that made her so happy. At one point, while she was eating breakfast, I slowly turned around from the doing dishes and said "uh, oh, I feel something happening" and I slowly walked over to her and bent down and gave her a great big hug and a kiss. Then I just turned and walked away. She said I scared her. I then went back to her and explained that I was going to do that all day. I was going to surprise her all day with hugs and kisses. And I have, too. Not only have I surprised her today, But she slowly snuck up on me and told me to bend down and she said. " I feel something happening to me mommy, and she gave me a big kiss and a hug and was even rubbing my back as she gave me a hug. It was the most awesome feeling!
Oh, how they surprise us sometimes!
We go to church on Wed. nights and she belongs to a Prek class. Believe it or not there is a little girl who is a whole lot worse than she is, actually she is an angel at church in class! But she made a comment that "K____y is a naughty girl, she doesn't behave in class, she doesn't listen at all". I thought that was good that she could recognize that in someone else, I think I will use that example next time she displays some of that behavior at home and see if she can recognize herself. We just got a video camera and if I can catch that behavior on film and show it back to her I think she can see herself misbehaving the way K____y does. Has anyone tried this with their difficult child? Has it worked?
Connie
