difficult child 1 came home from school yesterday saying he had a rough day But he wouldn't much talk about it. He just said that he got angry and didn't handle it well. His behavior at home wasn't great either. I get an e-mail from teacher saying she would like to talk and some things are best talked about in person; could we meet tomorrow? Yeah, I'm thinking he did something like throw desks again. Nope, he was in science and didn't have "his" pencil. There was a sub and he didn't want to ask for a new one. So he sat there and wouldn't talk to his aide. Wouldn't do the work. Aide took him in the hall where he sat and cried and refused to do work. The teacher came (she was in meetings) and tried to talk him into going in class and doing the work. He missed 1/2 of science. At the end of the day he didn't want to transition from one task to an other so he started cleaning his desk out. Compared to last year this was a great day! I did point out to difficult child 1 that he did handle his anger well. We talked about how he needs to be left alone to calm down. Her coming and talking about it prolonged it. We talked about having a chart for him to monitor his own behavior. About how he needs more immediate reinforcement than the once a week the therapist at school was doing. About how something is going on that is making transitions harder for him because he doesn't always act like this. And yes, sometimes he does do somethings on purpose just to bug the teacher. (He does this little smirk afterwards.) We also talked about how he tells adults "NO" and this isn't a good thing to tell adults. We're going to try to get him to say 'just a min' instead. It was a very good meeting. I'm glad she called me in. As soon as I got home he asked if he was in trouble. I said no. And told him about the new chart he was going to get and maybe a calm down spot.