Thanks for those who suggested seeing a neuropsychologist. I had googled and found four in a larger town an hour from us - but only one sees patients under 18 years old. AND she is the only one in our state! AND she is on the list of providers for our insurance! AND there is only a two month wait! The receptionist apologized for that - but I can live with that!
We have not made an appointment yet - as the therapists has testing scheduled for Tuesday next week for J (our GPG) that will take about two hours to get thru. Once we have those results, hopefully, I can get our therapist to make the referral, or our pediatricians office to do it.
Also, J has had about 5 good days in a row - lost it last night - I think she gets so angry at biomom that she just goes in to a rage. She hasn't called us in 2.5 months - after promising the girls she would call every Sunday night. J has written a pretty harsh letter that she had better get help, get sober, or don't plan on being a part of J's life in the future. And... "Oh, and who is my bio dad??" I have to try and track down where she is living now and get a mailing address, her parents don't know the address, but I got a cousins name... and I think I can find him on facebook and send a message to him that way. I really don't want to talk to J's biomom - I always feel "slimed" after just talking on the phone with her. She can try to sound like everything is just wonderful and how well she is doing, etc... when I know that isn't the true story. She left the state we live in and moved about 1500 miles away - and didn't tell her girls - until she had been gone for two months! Then when she did call, it was because she "wanted to get better and be the mom they deserved". Well, we adopted them 6 years ago and they have been out of her custody 8 years... so it is a little late! I tried to explain that she could still be an important part of their lives... but she couldn't step in and be "THE MOM". She just doesn't get it. Thanks for letting me vent. KSM
We have not made an appointment yet - as the therapists has testing scheduled for Tuesday next week for J (our GPG) that will take about two hours to get thru. Once we have those results, hopefully, I can get our therapist to make the referral, or our pediatricians office to do it.
Also, J has had about 5 good days in a row - lost it last night - I think she gets so angry at biomom that she just goes in to a rage. She hasn't called us in 2.5 months - after promising the girls she would call every Sunday night. J has written a pretty harsh letter that she had better get help, get sober, or don't plan on being a part of J's life in the future. And... "Oh, and who is my bio dad??" I have to try and track down where she is living now and get a mailing address, her parents don't know the address, but I got a cousins name... and I think I can find him on facebook and send a message to him that way. I really don't want to talk to J's biomom - I always feel "slimed" after just talking on the phone with her. She can try to sound like everything is just wonderful and how well she is doing, etc... when I know that isn't the true story. She left the state we live in and moved about 1500 miles away - and didn't tell her girls - until she had been gone for two months! Then when she did call, it was because she "wanted to get better and be the mom they deserved". Well, we adopted them 6 years ago and they have been out of her custody 8 years... so it is a little late! I tried to explain that she could still be an important part of their lives... but she couldn't step in and be "THE MOM". She just doesn't get it. Thanks for letting me vent. KSM