I met today with the VP and counselor at difficult child's school today and showed them the psychiatrist's recommendations, and they decided she should have an IEP! They will start the paperwork immediately. It will take time to complete, but they are making accomdations for her already. I am so freaked out because the experience with this school is the exact opposite of her last school. They are so nice and caring I am overwhelmed. It's hard for me to trust it - I keep waiting to see if they change and become mean and unhelpful like the last school. We're going to start with difficult child going to one or two classes and see how it goes. I met the attendance person and one of the sped teachers, and they were nice too. So sympathetic! The attendance person is going to find out whether difficult child can do an independent study for one class even though she's attending school (even one class is considered attending) . difficult child has history after lunch, then pilates, then science. We were thinking maybe she could eventually go to history and science, and do ENglish as an independent study but do the work at school instead of pilates. The psychiatrist doesn't want her doing independent study at home, and I already know it won't work. Also, they said a new anime club is forming. This is an incentive for difficult child and will help her make more friends.