My biggest worry with difficult child staying at a friend's house....was that she was going to just get 'dropped off' un-announced. If you read my other thread - you know that husband and I want some conditions met, first. This morning, the phone rang before 9 - friend's Mom was calling to say she was ready to drop difficult child off at any time. Wanted to know if we were done being "angry at difficult child". I told her that it's not about being angry. We are simply unwilling to tolerate certain behaviors in our home. I told her that difficult child is welcome to come home at any time - she just needs to give her Dad a call and apologize first. Then he will be happy to discuss the rules around here - which difficult child knows because they are the same rules the therapists have been trying to get her to agree to all along. I also told this woman that any time difficult child wears out her welcome - difficult child has a big family. difficult child can call a family member or another friend if she is not ready to abide by our rules. Friend's Mom said she understands completely. It was actually a rather nice conversation. And that was hours ago... No call from difficult child. So...we'll see.