We finally got test results for my son -- the meeting with psychologist to go over results was almost surreal..... he started on one thing, then moved to another issue, and it all went from bad news to worse and worse. I know the guy felt horrible telling us. First...his IQ is in the 70-75 range. So he has borderline intellect issues. That was a shock. We knew it was on the lower end of normal ( school tested him at about 85 in K). Then, when we recovered from that, he told us that on the ADD testing, he did so poorly on impulse control that he had never seen a child score that badly on that part of the test, and had to recheck to make sure my son hadn't quit on the testing, or something else didn't go wrong with the test itself. He has a 99.9% chance of ADHD. He also has significant auditory processing problems. Then, he def has autism spectrum. And the icing on the cake -- conduct disorder for real, no longer just suspected. So, we have autism, huge ADHD, huge auditory processing, low IQ and conduct disorder with suicidal tendencies and animal killing. The part that breaks my heart is reading about how terribly unhappy he is. There was a lot on that. Just when I thought things couldn't get any more bleak, right? At least we know and can start being proactive, instead of wondering if he is lazy or defiant because he "won't do" his math. His math portion of the IQ test scored in the 62-65 range. Poor thing. He kept saying he "couldn't do math and his teachers would yell at him for being lazy. So ways to be proactive include starting out with Intuniv -- a medication. Anyone know this one? Changing expectations of what he can do should relieve some of his stress. Getting some services in place should also help. Now that we have diagnoses, we can get things moving. The most surreal part of all -- this testing took many hours and ended up costing what I expect was almost three grand. Our insurance approved it but will kick in only a few hundred bucks. We paid $750 and were planning on setting up a payment plan with the doctor after the appointment. The doctor said that he would not collect on the rest of it, and it was his gift to us. "It was the least he could do," or something to that effect. I know he felt sorry for us. Can you believe it? We had the same reaction with the psychiatrist at the hospital, who could only say, "It's so sad..." when we were leaving. Phew. On to the next phase, I guess. Feeling pretty sad today.