Gracie Died

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by susiestar, Jun 2, 2010.

  1. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    I knew last night she was holding on for us. husband kept saying she wasn't in pain, but she was. She just didn't show it to him as much because he was her human. She let me see. We were giving her fluids every hour or two, and they helped, but not enough.

    I went in to her about 12:30 to check on her and she cried when I touched her. She kept trying to burrow into the blankets to hide from me. So I let her be.

    husband went and got the kitten meal replacer today because he finally got paid. He brought it home and when he went in to check on her she was gone.

    I know in my heart that there was nothing a vet could have done. I knew when she got so skinny it was almost over. thank you cried so hard he got sick. Jess is waiting until she can be alone to cry. I can't stop. husband won't cry yet. He started the "If I was a better man I would have a job and we could pay the vet" ****. He did stop when I told him it was unfair to the kids and I for him to say that.

    Thank you for all your suggestions and ideas. I tried the ones I could and she was more comfortable because them.
  2. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry.:(
  3. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh I am so sorry for your loss of Gracie. There is nothing quite like the pain we feel when we lose a beloved pet. I know you did the best you could for her, and I've no doubt that she knew it, too. Hugs.
  4. trinityroyal

    trinityroyal Well-Known Member

    Susie, I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending gentle hugs to all of you.
  5. GoingNorth

    GoingNorth Crazy Cat Lady

    I am so sorry to hear this. Hugs to you and your family
  6. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    So very sorry you lost her.:crying:I understand the pain and the guilt -- Hugs to you and your family.
  7. Jody

    Jody Active Member

    I am so sorry. Many hugs.
  8. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    Susie - I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. Gentle hugs to you.
  9. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    I'm so sorry. :crying:
  10. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    My heart goes out to you and your family. Losing a member of the family is so hard. And our pets are family. Many hugs!
  11. Tiapet

    Tiapet Old Hand

    I'm sorry susie. May she always hold that special place in your hearts and minds (as I'm sure she will).
  12. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Susie! I'm so sorry that Gracie passed. in my humble opinion, it's better that you didn't have a lot of veterinary intervention. My sister's dog had the same issues that you've described Gracie having and was diagnosis'd with cancer. Although she couldn't afford it, the vet let her invest over $5,000. dollars in chemo and radiation treatments that made the dog horribly ill and he died a year later. It wasn't an extra year that he lived, it was an extra year that he existed. And trust me - it was a miserable existance.

    Gracie loved all of you...she may have been uncomfortable, but she died with love from her family. Know in your hearts that she had a wonderful life with all of you...

    My heart and prayers are with all of you.

  13. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I'm so sorry, Susie. Many hugs to you and the family.
  14. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Thanks all. husband and the kids are burying her in my parents' yard where husband's bird and our Freckles and other fur wearing family members are buried. I have got the worst migraine and started an asthma attack AND thinking I was going to be sick, so they are doing it with-o me. husband is at least seeing that it is not about him or his job or lack of one. It is about her having a peaceful death at home.

    thank you insisted on helping husband dig the grave because someday when he is a man he will probably have a cat. If he doesn't die before the cat then he should know how to bury her. His words. He is just an amazing young man.
  15. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    I'm sorry.
  16. ML

    ML Guest

    I am so sorry, Susie. I agree that it was unlikely a vet could have done anything more. As you know, we recently lost Mr. Kitten so I know what you are going through. I cried tears I didn't know I had. I am sorry for your family's loss. Hugs and love, ML
  17. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Sending hugs.
  18. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Sending more hugs. I'm glad she at least passed at home with those who love her best.
  19. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I'm very sorry. (((hugs)))
  20. mstang67chic

    mstang67chic Going Green

    I'm sorry. Hugs to you all.