It hasn't even been a week yet, and my son called his dad's mom to come pick him up at a friends house the other morning. Obviously he was there all night partying, didn't feel like taking BiState, or ride his bike(He no longer has his car-drove it to the ground). She calls me up to ask for permission to pick him up, I told her NOT to do it. I said, "Does he want to be driven to Treatment? Is he at church and needs a ride home?"...NO, you are picking him up from a night of doing drugs and you are asking me if you should do it?" She picked him up, only because she said she thought she could knock some sense in him. She then called me "crying" because she said he was very angry and didn't get no where with him. I understand her crying. My son has always been her favorite..he was the first grandchild, he always showed her love, is good looking and always wanted to "show him off"....I asked her, "how's that working out?" She admitted to my husband that she don't know if she could say no next time he calls her. What good is she doing for us? My husband is furious with her. In the mean time, his grandpa lets him take showers at his house and lets him "visit"....are you guys ready for this one? Hope your sitting down...his grandpa smokes weed himself..but is a recreational smoker, maybe a few times a month. Has all his life. He LETS our son smoke in his house but realizes that our son has a drug problem but thinks his other issues contribute to his problems, not just the weed in general. He has always thought weed is HARMLESS. They always say that children of parents who do drugs end up doing drugs, not true, my husband does not do drugs. HIs dad has had a stroke, left him without use of one arm, is retired and don't do anything but sit and watch TV and my son has said time and time again that he does not want to end up like him. He told his dad how he feels and told him to NOT let him in his home to take a shower, sleep or anything. I told my husband that his parents are sabatoging our efforts and he will never turn his life around. To add more drama and stress, I hate to get mad at his mom because we believe she is having early signs of loosing her memory and this whole situation had made her worse. I am going to be on the phone with her doctor today discussing what options and tests they are going to do with her. I take care of my hubby's father too, take him to the doctor and shopping and clean his house. I feel like telling him I will cut him off if he don't stop enabling my son. I'm so sick about the whole deal. I wake up sometimes and wish we were on a reality series! At least then, while I am loosing my own mind, I could make some money and pay off my many bills!!! Oh I can imagine how many people would tune in every week for our TRAINWRECK!