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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 40930" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Tracy, she can't do anything. I was watching a Dr Phil program today about toxic mothers-in-law, one mother in law had said she would go to court to get her grandparent rights to have access to her grandchildren. 'Dr Phil told her, "Grandparents do not have legal rights."</p><p>And he's right - if the child is getting appropriate parental care and both parents say to grandma to stay away, a grandparent cannot get any legal access. The only way your mother could get anywhere is if she successfully sues for custody.</p><p>But from this woman's reaction on Dr Phil, I don't think she realised that. Maybe a lot of people don't - they want to think that a court would insist on the child having access to a grandparent, but they won't go against the parents' wishes.</p><p></p><p>Also, there is often more to a case than meets the eye. plus what kids tell one parent/grandparent/friend's mother is not what they tell others. We have a case in our news at the moment, where a father took his kids away for 6 weeks when the mother has custody. The courts gave her permission to appeal to the media and show the kids' faces; all we heard was that the shiftless layabout dad had stolen his kids, they would be missing their mother and there were grave fears for their safety.</p><p>The father responded on the media, after he handed the kids over to police. he said the kids were unhappy with their mother because that's what they told him; they had spent the six weeks in some very valuable physical and emotional healing and that the children's rights had not been given proper consideration by the courts. Unlike the usual cases, this father was NOT insisting on HIS rights, but referring to the needs of his children.</p><p>What is the truth in this? Probably somewhere in between, but it's going to take careful consideration and talking to those involved before any decision is made.</p><p></p><p>In legal cases to do with access and custody, it's unusual for decisions to be hasty. But it did make me wonder - what has difficult child told his grandmother? Chances are she's jumped to a totally different conclusion than you, because she's heard a totally different story. Whether it is what he said - who knows? But she sounds like she's acting under a different belief system.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 40930, member: 1991"] Tracy, she can't do anything. I was watching a Dr Phil program today about toxic mothers-in-law, one mother in law had said she would go to court to get her grandparent rights to have access to her grandchildren. 'Dr Phil told her, "Grandparents do not have legal rights." And he's right - if the child is getting appropriate parental care and both parents say to grandma to stay away, a grandparent cannot get any legal access. The only way your mother could get anywhere is if she successfully sues for custody. But from this woman's reaction on Dr Phil, I don't think she realised that. Maybe a lot of people don't - they want to think that a court would insist on the child having access to a grandparent, but they won't go against the parents' wishes. Also, there is often more to a case than meets the eye. plus what kids tell one parent/grandparent/friend's mother is not what they tell others. We have a case in our news at the moment, where a father took his kids away for 6 weeks when the mother has custody. The courts gave her permission to appeal to the media and show the kids' faces; all we heard was that the shiftless layabout dad had stolen his kids, they would be missing their mother and there were grave fears for their safety. The father responded on the media, after he handed the kids over to police. he said the kids were unhappy with their mother because that's what they told him; they had spent the six weeks in some very valuable physical and emotional healing and that the children's rights had not been given proper consideration by the courts. Unlike the usual cases, this father was NOT insisting on HIS rights, but referring to the needs of his children. What is the truth in this? Probably somewhere in between, but it's going to take careful consideration and talking to those involved before any decision is made. In legal cases to do with access and custody, it's unusual for decisions to be hasty. But it did make me wonder - what has difficult child told his grandmother? Chances are she's jumped to a totally different conclusion than you, because she's heard a totally different story. Whether it is what he said - who knows? But she sounds like she's acting under a different belief system. Marg [/QUOTE]
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