Thanks to everyone!
Interesting question, Nomad. What did my daughter do to get herself in a much healthier place.
I have been pondering this all morning. Some thoughts:
Her siblings: She has a very close relationship with her siblings, especially her twin. They have helped her tremendously.
Friends: She was in a homeschooling group of kids (about 30) who all hung out. All the parents knew each other, knew the kids, their young siblings, in a group based on cooperation and friendliness. More like an extended (non-dysfunctional) family. No cliques, no hierarchy, no drinking, no smoking, no drugs, no sex, no disrespectful behaviors, no bullying, no singling anyone out as 'different' no real teen-age drama.
Willingness to get help: She was willing to listen to people and recognize that she had a problem and she was willing to get help. She has been with the same doctor, taken her advise, worked on her problems, taken medications/gone through many different medications to find what works.
Attitude and personality: She has always been a Type A, perfectionist, always the best, but instead of feeling sorry for herself she went to work to fix the problem. Never let anything hold her back.
I am not saying it was in any way easy for her or us, but without these things, it could have been way worse.
Along with the mental health problems, she has also dealt with some physical problems requiring three surgeries during college. Yet she went to school full time, worked full time, dealt with her mental and physical conditions, graduated 3.7, got a great job right out of college, progressed up the ladder in the company, making close to six figures at age 27, and found a really, really wonderful man to marry.
And yes, I am very proud.