Hi Everyone, I'm really down today. My daughter is suspended for 3 days because she typed in the word porn on a computer at school while she was supposed to be researching. She was already on thin ice for a variety of escalating things over the past couple of weeks. She stole somone's purse the Friday before, stole the girl's i-pod and cell phone, and when the cell phone ran out of charge, stole another. She is kicked out of that school. The principal is being much more considerate of the situation but her hands are tied as far as consequences so she might get sent to an alternative school because she had an ARD some weeks ago and no label was put on her yet. (She's not special-ed.) Anyway, I told my husband, I don't want to celebrate a single thing tomorrow. I called my mom last night and told her what was going on and that I would celebrate her but that was it. She understood. We had so many hopes and dreams for this girl and she really is self-destroying before our eyes the same way our son did so many years ago. We can't help someone who doesn't want help. Even one of her therapists told me to stop bailing her out and let the natural consequences happen. It's just sad. She's at an elite school but now kicked out. She's also at an elite fine arts academy (top 10 in US) but I'm going to ask for a doctor's note for a refund for the summer program. She won't be able to get back in. It's audition only and not the kind of training you can just quit and then pick up years later. My husband is so sad about it but he's not the one who takes her there and has had to see how abnormal she is behaving compared to everyone now. I hope everyone else is having a much better Mother's Day Weekend than I am. I'm heartbroken.