Am new to this forum as of today. I had no idea there was a place to come and vent,grieve,and moan on the internet. At 67, I have grown more than weary of my oldest child, who to this day, still can not function on her own.She recently lost her job, had a traffic accident-not her fault, but totaled her car,and is now homeless-again. For the last twenty five years, family and friends,have helped on a weekly basis, with money,and a whole host of things to help someone get on their feet. When she was younger and had four kids of her own,me and my husband took them in four times. Others have taken them in also over the years. In the beginning, she had drug problems. To the best of my knowledge she is not on drugs now, or for the last few years. She had a good job, for nine years,and she was making progress until she lost job (supposedly not her fault) and had the car accident. One of her biggest issues, no sense of money value at all. She's gone thru I know, 2-3 thousand in the last month. Trying to stay on her own. None, of my family can or even want to take her in. I am thinking, her friends also, have given up. So, she will be out on the street, along with her youngest daughter, and her two kids-with another on the way. AS, long as i do not hear from her, I , cope fine,but once she calls, and starts telling me her problems, and now one of her own kids problems- I just want to run off somewhere. I stopped aiding her years ago- at least I feel like i did. She also has so many health issues, I cant even name them all on here. So, how do I cope now ? It's always the same story,for her,only the times, and places change. Unfortunate,that her one of her two daughters, has grown the same,in some ways. Her two sons, no big problems, they of course have manged for their selves. I know I have tired so many things over the years, and I do not believe any of this is my fault.But still, can't stop being concerned for her welfare. Believe it or not, with all that I have been through with her over the last twenty five years or more, I am not and alcoholic, don't do drugs,and considered rational and level headed..LOL go figure. Just need apiece of mind sometimes, on how to continue and stay back, and not let all this get to me.