I went to the courthouse yesterday and filled out the papers to serve him. She gave me a list of sheriffs to contact to do it. I asked if I could do it myself but in the State of CT. a sheriff has to do it. She also told me that if they go to serve him and can't find him they will charge each time, so I called him and told him I'm serving him and that I'm going to arrange it with the sheriff to do it at a scheduled time to make sure he's there. Do you know what he had the nerve to say to me???? You're not wasting any time. Are you sure you want to do this??? I said, I'm not wasting any time??? You've already moved on and jumped head first into a new relationship, after having an affair while my mother was dying and you say I'm not wasting any time!!!! Once he realized what he was saying he changed the subject to how he hopes someday we can be friends and then tried to tell me that he'll always be there for me if I need anything. I reminded him that he wasn't there for me when I needed him the most, so I don't think there will be anything in the future I will need him for. He then tells me that he told our son that he is seeing somebody and he said, D.J. said he was happy for me because I'm happy. Then he says to me, and this is what I am furious about, Judy and I are doing good!!!! I said to him, I can't believe you are even trying to discuss this relationship with me. I don't want to know anything about it and I can't believe you just said that to me. I said to him, that comment is up around the same level as you having an affair while my mother was dying. Hasn't he hurt me enough??? Is there a reason he feels the need to continue to hurt me, or is he looking for my approval of his new relationship? What did he expect me to say?? I think he really thought I might say, I'm really happy for you, best wishes and make sure I'm invited to the wedding!!!! Why in the world would he tell me that???? Needless to say I didn't sleep much last night. I woke up around 2 a.m. and I just started getting angrier and angrier. He hasn't wasted any time on anything, including taking 5 minutes to deal with and grieve over what happened to a 30 year relationship. I am so angry and hurt right now I can't even think straight.