L went to New Zealand with her boyfriend last week to meet his family. They bought a house together this fall, and she has been talking marriage. I have never heard him talk about it. The last she told me was that she had picked out a setting for an engagement ring, and he wanted to wait to buy a diamond. I'm just very superstitious, so I never say anything like "Thank goodness I have a good reliable computer", because it's bound to fry after a statement like that. I'm sure that she thought that I was cautious when I asked her if he was there and what he had said, but I was just not going to throw my caution to the wind. Anyway, I knew she was coming back on Sunday, and that she would be tired. I did not hear from her on Monday which was a busy day for me, so I texted her on Tuesday asking if she was back. I got the "Yes, been busy, blah blah blah" answer. So, I went to her FB page to see if there were photos of her trip. There was a photo of a great big diamond on her hand! I texted and said "You got a ring and didn't tell me?" She said "He asked me in NZ." I congratulated them and said we were very happy. I'd asked her to call m last night before I saw or mentioned the ring. But, no call. I'm really pretty hurt that she hasn't given me the full dish on this. We've offered to help pay for the wedding within a certain $ amount limit. Not nearly what her dad had offered in the past, but then we're not an attorney married to an RN. I'm sending very positive vibes to her, and hoping that we don't have to play too many games with my family because they don't like me. I've actually tried calling my parents but they didn't answer the phone. Probably screened me out. I want to tell them that this is Lauren's day, and that everyone needs to set their pride aside and not be hurtful to anyone that she loves by excluding them from activities or making them sit separately or attend separate wedding showers. It's time to bury the hatchet at least until this is over with and be adults for her sake.