My son has requested a day leave pass from his residential treatment program (he is there for depression/mood instability) to spend some time with us on the 4th of July. My husband works until 6pm that day so if my son is with us, it will just be me and our 5 other kids. I don't know how I feel about it, honestly. On the one hand, I don't want to discourage him and I know reaching out to family in healthy ways is probably part of his treatment. On the other hand, the last time I was around him he had a violent outburst and I am not sure I want to be vulnerable to that happening again. I was thinking of taking the kids to a parade at 10:00 so maybe he could just come to that. We may do fireworks later on but I think my son will need to be back in his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) before then. I know I need to set some guidelines and boundaries with him regarding contact but I am not sure where to begin. I don't know how stable he is yet. Yesterday he was a bit irritable when I didn't come at 6:00 to bring him more clothes and instead came at 7:00 but he got over it quickly. He is on the spectrum so time is a black and white concept for him and a big trigger when things don't go as expected. I will have to transport him, he doesn't have a car or DL.