I got home from work last night to find difficult child 1 wearing a sporty motorcycle helmet and goggles. I'd seen that helmet and another just like it at a garage sale at the end of our block. We do not own a motorized vehicle of any kind except my van. Because of our finances, unless I win the lottery, we will never own any motorized vehicle aside from the family vehicle. Our neighbors at the end of the block doing the garage sale (their adult kids arae actually doing it for them) are elderly and I noticed they just put their house up for sale. They are wonderfully kind people and would give you the shirt off their back. She has had some health problems for awhile but he's always seemed fine so seeing the for sale sign surprised me. The husband is also a "card" with a wonderful sense of humor and, as is typical of his generation around here, can spin a good tale (usually involving SOME truth hiding in there). Anyway, when I questioned difficult child 1 about the helmet, he said he'd bought it for a good reason. "The guy broke his hip and he's selling his stuff so he can afford to go to the assisted living place. I wanted to help him out." My heart melted. The truth is, he probably did break his hip (some time ago though) and they probably are planning to go into the assisted living. They are selling what they have no intentions of taking with them from their house and the kids have thrown in stuff they want to get rid of. The motorcycle helmets more than likely belonged to a grandchild. difficult child 1 got his 4-H county fair premium check a couple weeks ago ($34). When he gets money, he spends it. I have tried teaching him wants vs needs but the only way he learns is to "gently" guide him but when he's out of money, he's out of money. After this purchase, he has $8 left. The problem is he is so gullible that he believes every word every nice person says to him and he's so vulnerable to being taken advatage of. He's nearly broke because he felt sorry for the neighbor who was joking around with him. I don't want to take the helmet back because that will just make ME the bad guy because he firmly believes the neighbor needs the money that bad. I will keep my mouth shut and continue to try to guide him and let natural consequences work when they need to. It just struck me that he really IS gullible and very vulnerable. Sorry if this is long but it really hit me for some reason.