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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 628652" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>You have an opportunity here to stand up, Nomad. If you take it, your life will change. You will feel stronger, cleaner, more centered.</p><p></p><p>For the sake of the owner too, you should explain to her that one of her employees is not treating customers with respect. </p><p></p><p>Without respect Nomad, we have nothing. You could spend a billion dollars there, but knowing one of the employees chooses to approach her work determined to disrespect her own customers will destroy the pleasure of the personal services you receive, the pleasure of the interactions you undertake there, and the pleasure in creating of yourself a bright, attractive, well mannered woman who speaks Spanish like a natural.</p><p></p><p>All this, that one employee is determined to cheapen and to change into something uncomfortable, into something ugly.</p><p></p><p>In good conscience Nomad, you must inform the owner that one of her employees is undercutting the good, healthy atmosphere her business depends on. But I would caution you too Nomad, to approach all this from a loving perspective. If you look closely enough, you can understand the harshness coming from the employee has nothing to do with who you are, and everything to do with her own sense of inadequacy. Do you know her story? How did she come to be here? Does she have children in trouble, maybe an overbearing husband?</p><p></p><p>There is something, some place in her heart Nomad, that admires you so much that it leaves her feeling less than, or she would not be doing what she is doing.</p><p></p><p>As for me? I applaud your efforts to learn and speak another language. A normal, healthy response from anyone you come into contact with would be honor, that you care enough about them and their people to learn their language.</p><p></p><p>That is what I have found, in the past, about any new thing we take on and do well. There are those who celebrate that with you, and there are those, hurt somehow in their own pasts, who cannot see further than their own hurt, than their own jealousy.</p><p></p><p>I have been that hurt, jealous person more than once, in my own life.</p><p></p><p>Approach this situation with warmth and kindness Nomad, and you will handle every aspect with grace.</p><p></p><p>This can be seen as an opportunity for growth, Nomad. </p><p></p><p>Take it, and be grateful. </p><p></p><p>I know you will handle this situation with grace and with strength. Will you post back to us about how you handle it, and about the employees response?</p><p></p><p>I wonder whether you might ask her yourself, why she feels as she does.</p><p></p><p>That is what I would do.</p><p></p><p>If there is no change after you have spoken with her, then I would inform the employer. If the employee does not change her attitude, that jealous kind of negativity will transform that shop from a happy place to a negative one, and the owner's business will suffer.</p><p></p><p>That is the only reason I would tell the employer.</p><p></p><p>You are more than strong and kind enough to have had these kinds of things happen to you in the past, Nomad. Though it may not seem possible to us because we know how we struggle, to others, we may seem to lead charmed lives. How each of us responds to those we feel are happier or wealthier or more beautiful has nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with who we are, and with who we are becoming.</p><p></p><p>The employee's response to you is nothing personal, Nomad. She is responding in the only way she knows to something that hurts her, that tells her she is not enough.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted to us about this, this morning. We all need to remember that about people who hurt us, who ridicule or make us feel less than.</p><p></p><p>They have been hurt, too.</p><p></p><p>Or they would not be doing that.</p><p></p><p>I needed, very much, to remember that this morning Nomad.</p><p></p><p>Thanks!</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 628652, member: 17461"] You have an opportunity here to stand up, Nomad. If you take it, your life will change. You will feel stronger, cleaner, more centered. For the sake of the owner too, you should explain to her that one of her employees is not treating customers with respect. Without respect Nomad, we have nothing. You could spend a billion dollars there, but knowing one of the employees chooses to approach her work determined to disrespect her own customers will destroy the pleasure of the personal services you receive, the pleasure of the interactions you undertake there, and the pleasure in creating of yourself a bright, attractive, well mannered woman who speaks Spanish like a natural. All this, that one employee is determined to cheapen and to change into something uncomfortable, into something ugly. In good conscience Nomad, you must inform the owner that one of her employees is undercutting the good, healthy atmosphere her business depends on. But I would caution you too Nomad, to approach all this from a loving perspective. If you look closely enough, you can understand the harshness coming from the employee has nothing to do with who you are, and everything to do with her own sense of inadequacy. Do you know her story? How did she come to be here? Does she have children in trouble, maybe an overbearing husband? There is something, some place in her heart Nomad, that admires you so much that it leaves her feeling less than, or she would not be doing what she is doing. As for me? I applaud your efforts to learn and speak another language. A normal, healthy response from anyone you come into contact with would be honor, that you care enough about them and their people to learn their language. That is what I have found, in the past, about any new thing we take on and do well. There are those who celebrate that with you, and there are those, hurt somehow in their own pasts, who cannot see further than their own hurt, than their own jealousy. I have been that hurt, jealous person more than once, in my own life. Approach this situation with warmth and kindness Nomad, and you will handle every aspect with grace. This can be seen as an opportunity for growth, Nomad. Take it, and be grateful. I know you will handle this situation with grace and with strength. Will you post back to us about how you handle it, and about the employees response? I wonder whether you might ask her yourself, why she feels as she does. That is what I would do. If there is no change after you have spoken with her, then I would inform the employer. If the employee does not change her attitude, that jealous kind of negativity will transform that shop from a happy place to a negative one, and the owner's business will suffer. That is the only reason I would tell the employer. You are more than strong and kind enough to have had these kinds of things happen to you in the past, Nomad. Though it may not seem possible to us because we know how we struggle, to others, we may seem to lead charmed lives. How each of us responds to those we feel are happier or wealthier or more beautiful has nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with who we are, and with who we are becoming. The employee's response to you is nothing personal, Nomad. She is responding in the only way she knows to something that hurts her, that tells her she is not enough. I am glad you posted to us about this, this morning. We all need to remember that about people who hurt us, who ridicule or make us feel less than. They have been hurt, too. Or they would not be doing that. I needed, very much, to remember that this morning Nomad. Thanks! :O) Cedar [/QUOTE]
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