mrscatinthehat
Seussical
Ok I need to know what the divorce rate is for couples that redo their house together is.
If my husband says the phrase "It doesn't matter" one more time when I mention/ask him to do somethiing a certain way I don't know what I will do.
I realize I am emotional right now (PMS) but what I say does matter to me. He didn't get the correlation between saying it doesn't matter and that meaning I don't matter. Simply if my opinion isn't good enough then pffft on him.
Now don't get me wrong I love this man but OMG I don't tell him how to drill/saw etc. But painting is my domain. When I ask you to do something a certain way just do it. When he asked me to hold drywall - I did it. When I have been asked to hold something to saw it I hold it the way he wants. Soooo why is it when it comes to the painting he can't do what I ask. Don't know but saying it doesn't matter just makes my head spin.
Then when I got mad about that and was yelling (by the way don't do that in an empty bathroom it echoes bad) he tells me to stop yelling. Oh yeah cuz that helps.
Now I guess I should give you a little back ground on this so you can understand why it made me upset. I have a fear of bathrooms. I had many bad things happen in them when I was little. So this is why we are doing this bathroom first so I have a safe happy bathroom. That is why I am doing it in Never land theme so I can be happy and retrain my brain that it is ok. Thus the reason for the Tick tock crock on the door. I know it sounds corny that he will be there to keep the bad out. Now husband knows all this (he knows the details that I am not putting here). Yet he starts in with the it doesn't matter .
Sorry but that just pisses me off. We got the primer done. I have to calm myself sufficiently while he is at work to do the actually paint.
When he started cleaning up and asked what I wanted done with the roller brush (that didn't cooperate) I had to control myself and not tell him where I wanted him to stick it.
This is going to be a true test. We handle the difficult child stuff in stride and most of the time on the same page. The house on the other hand is going to be our true test.
Beth
If my husband says the phrase "It doesn't matter" one more time when I mention/ask him to do somethiing a certain way I don't know what I will do.
I realize I am emotional right now (PMS) but what I say does matter to me. He didn't get the correlation between saying it doesn't matter and that meaning I don't matter. Simply if my opinion isn't good enough then pffft on him.
Now don't get me wrong I love this man but OMG I don't tell him how to drill/saw etc. But painting is my domain. When I ask you to do something a certain way just do it. When he asked me to hold drywall - I did it. When I have been asked to hold something to saw it I hold it the way he wants. Soooo why is it when it comes to the painting he can't do what I ask. Don't know but saying it doesn't matter just makes my head spin.
Then when I got mad about that and was yelling (by the way don't do that in an empty bathroom it echoes bad) he tells me to stop yelling. Oh yeah cuz that helps.
Now I guess I should give you a little back ground on this so you can understand why it made me upset. I have a fear of bathrooms. I had many bad things happen in them when I was little. So this is why we are doing this bathroom first so I have a safe happy bathroom. That is why I am doing it in Never land theme so I can be happy and retrain my brain that it is ok. Thus the reason for the Tick tock crock on the door. I know it sounds corny that he will be there to keep the bad out. Now husband knows all this (he knows the details that I am not putting here). Yet he starts in with the it doesn't matter .
Sorry but that just pisses me off. We got the primer done. I have to calm myself sufficiently while he is at work to do the actually paint.
When he started cleaning up and asked what I wanted done with the roller brush (that didn't cooperate) I had to control myself and not tell him where I wanted him to stick it.
This is going to be a true test. We handle the difficult child stuff in stride and most of the time on the same page. The house on the other hand is going to be our true test.
Beth