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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 9151"><p>I'm sorry that this has come up. For whatever it's worth, I don't buy into the idea that Borderline (BPD) is induced. in my humble opinion it's neurological, a mental illness that is, if not genetic, at least medical rather than psychological. That's not to say that abuse doesn't trigger problems. But I don't believe personally that it triggers Borderline (BPD) any more than I believe that it triggers BiPolar (BP), unipolar depression, anxiety disorders or any of the other true mental illnesses. I understand that it can be difficult to differentiate a depression triggered by a loss, the death of a loved one vs a true unipolar depressive. But in my humble opinion if you dig deep enough, if you look at a lifetime of depressive symptoms vs one period in a person's life you'll see a difference. Same with post partum depression, it's not tirggered by the happiest time in a mother's life, it's triggered by hormones. I hope you can think more about this and come to believe that it is a mental illness, not a psychological issue arising from circumstances.</p><p></p><p>In the world of adoption most of us know at least one or two young adults diagnosis as Borderline (BPD) who were not abused a day in their lives. I have no doubt that non-adoptive parents know of the same as well. It's just so much more obvious when the Mom doesn't have Borderline (BPD) as well and when you've seen this child for many, many hours over many, many years and you know there wasn't an ounce of abuse, neglect or anything else that "could have caused it". Perhaps if you had sibs who suffered the same abuse but did not develop Borderline (BPD) it would be more believable to you.</p><p></p><p>I'd also urge you to talk to your psychiatrist about this. Remember that therapists and psychiatrists have different views on this, you don't need to buy in to the one view over another just because the therapist is the one discussing it with you.</p><p></p><p>Do try to re-think this rather than spend time beating yourself up.</p><p></p><p>I think of all the mothers of autistic kids prior to the 70's who carried the guilt of being "refrigerator moms", thinking that they caused their child to be autistic. I'd hate to see you suffer that way so needlessly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 9151"] I'm sorry that this has come up. For whatever it's worth, I don't buy into the idea that Borderline (BPD) is induced. in my humble opinion it's neurological, a mental illness that is, if not genetic, at least medical rather than psychological. That's not to say that abuse doesn't trigger problems. But I don't believe personally that it triggers Borderline (BPD) any more than I believe that it triggers BiPolar (BP), unipolar depression, anxiety disorders or any of the other true mental illnesses. I understand that it can be difficult to differentiate a depression triggered by a loss, the death of a loved one vs a true unipolar depressive. But in my humble opinion if you dig deep enough, if you look at a lifetime of depressive symptoms vs one period in a person's life you'll see a difference. Same with post partum depression, it's not tirggered by the happiest time in a mother's life, it's triggered by hormones. I hope you can think more about this and come to believe that it is a mental illness, not a psychological issue arising from circumstances. In the world of adoption most of us know at least one or two young adults diagnosis as Borderline (BPD) who were not abused a day in their lives. I have no doubt that non-adoptive parents know of the same as well. It's just so much more obvious when the Mom doesn't have Borderline (BPD) as well and when you've seen this child for many, many hours over many, many years and you know there wasn't an ounce of abuse, neglect or anything else that "could have caused it". Perhaps if you had sibs who suffered the same abuse but did not develop Borderline (BPD) it would be more believable to you. I'd also urge you to talk to your psychiatrist about this. Remember that therapists and psychiatrists have different views on this, you don't need to buy in to the one view over another just because the therapist is the one discussing it with you. Do try to re-think this rather than spend time beating yourself up. I think of all the mothers of autistic kids prior to the 70's who carried the guilt of being "refrigerator moms", thinking that they caused their child to be autistic. I'd hate to see you suffer that way so needlessly. [/QUOTE]
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