PatriotsGirl
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My best friend's neice, who is the same age as my difficult child and actually was friends with my difficult child until she was smart enough to get away from difficult child, had a baby girl this morning. Natural labor - everything perfect and everyone is elated.
And I can't help but sit here and be jealous that my difficult child's situation is not the same.
It just HOOVERS having an addict instead of a "normal" child.
She finally called me night before last, telling me she can't make up her mind and knows she needs to. Then she starts telling me that she heard about low income housing through WIC?? Then tells me she needs me or one of her friends to make the phone calls about it. Excuse me??? She says if she has to make the calls, it will never get done. She does nothing else!!!!!! NOTHING. And she wants someone that has a JOB and a LIFE to make HER phone calls for her?? I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I told her I know nothing about it and would not be making any phone calls for her. Told her if she can't even make a phone call or see a doctor, how does she expect to take care of a child??? Then she starts complaining about boyfriend and his controlling ways. I told her he was her choice and I was not going to get involved. She was saying how he told her he will get custody once the baby is born. I told her she pops out that baby and it tests positive for drugs, that baby will be taken from her then and there and she will be arrested. If he can show that he can take care of the baby, he may get custody. I reminded her AGAIN that I am not raising it. That if they take the baby and ask me to take it, I will have to say no and it will be heartbreaking but I can't. She says she knows. I also reminded her that she has no idea what is growing in her belly - what condition that baby is in, if it is deformed, has issues - nothing - she knows nothing and soon it will be too late to do anything about it. WTF??? Seriously??? Who is this DUMB???? My kid. Embarassing.
Yesterday I had to go downtown and officially "receive" my new employee that was transferred to me. I took her out to lunch and we were discussing work when difficult child tries calling. I text her that I am at a lunch and cannot answer my phone. She texts me to call her. A minute later I get a text from that says "cops". So, as my employee and I are walking back, I excuse myself to make the phone call while my employee goes upstairs. difficult child wanted to come over to visit and asks why I am never home when she is in our area (lol luck??). I told her that I have a JOB and a CAREER. That she should try it!! Ugh.
Just a bad morning. I am embarassed, frustrated, angry, heartbroken, jealous and feeling all sorts of other bad emotions about her.
And I can't help but sit here and be jealous that my difficult child's situation is not the same.
It just HOOVERS having an addict instead of a "normal" child.
She finally called me night before last, telling me she can't make up her mind and knows she needs to. Then she starts telling me that she heard about low income housing through WIC?? Then tells me she needs me or one of her friends to make the phone calls about it. Excuse me??? She says if she has to make the calls, it will never get done. She does nothing else!!!!!! NOTHING. And she wants someone that has a JOB and a LIFE to make HER phone calls for her?? I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I told her I know nothing about it and would not be making any phone calls for her. Told her if she can't even make a phone call or see a doctor, how does she expect to take care of a child??? Then she starts complaining about boyfriend and his controlling ways. I told her he was her choice and I was not going to get involved. She was saying how he told her he will get custody once the baby is born. I told her she pops out that baby and it tests positive for drugs, that baby will be taken from her then and there and she will be arrested. If he can show that he can take care of the baby, he may get custody. I reminded her AGAIN that I am not raising it. That if they take the baby and ask me to take it, I will have to say no and it will be heartbreaking but I can't. She says she knows. I also reminded her that she has no idea what is growing in her belly - what condition that baby is in, if it is deformed, has issues - nothing - she knows nothing and soon it will be too late to do anything about it. WTF??? Seriously??? Who is this DUMB???? My kid. Embarassing.
Yesterday I had to go downtown and officially "receive" my new employee that was transferred to me. I took her out to lunch and we were discussing work when difficult child tries calling. I text her that I am at a lunch and cannot answer my phone. She texts me to call her. A minute later I get a text from that says "cops". So, as my employee and I are walking back, I excuse myself to make the phone call while my employee goes upstairs. difficult child wanted to come over to visit and asks why I am never home when she is in our area (lol luck??). I told her that I have a JOB and a CAREER. That she should try it!! Ugh.
Just a bad morning. I am embarassed, frustrated, angry, heartbroken, jealous and feeling all sorts of other bad emotions about her.
And that manipulation - cops. UGH.
