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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 689210" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I think about this sometimes, too.</p><p></p><p>I think I believe that money is only the symbol, the placeholder, for what is really being bequeathed. That intangible something that money symbolizes, and that we pass on, has to do with something like authentic legitimacy, and it travels down the generations.</p><p></p><p>Once the money is spent, the feelings attending the message passed down are the only things left, and they will bless or curse our families for generations to come.</p><p> </p><p>To me, the question is one not of money, but of belonging. Gone Boy was as beloved as your other children. It was his choice to turn from you, and so far, he has stayed turned away all of his life.</p><p></p><p>Not your choice and not your doing and you would have had it different if you could have. </p><p></p><p>So I think the right thing is to include him, because those are your true feelings. You love him. You cherish your memories of him. Make that more important than what he has done to you.</p><p></p><p>Figuring this out has been helpful to me too, SWOT.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p><p></p><p>SWOT, are you certain Gone Boy did not make contact while you were recovering? </p><p></p><p>Though my daughter seemed cognizant at the time, we realized just lately that she remembers nothing about who she spoke with or even, what was said, during the weeks immediately after her traumatic brain injury.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 689210, member: 17461"] I think about this sometimes, too. I think I believe that money is only the symbol, the placeholder, for what is really being bequeathed. That intangible something that money symbolizes, and that we pass on, has to do with something like authentic legitimacy, and it travels down the generations. Once the money is spent, the feelings attending the message passed down are the only things left, and they will bless or curse our families for generations to come. To me, the question is one not of money, but of belonging. Gone Boy was as beloved[I] [/I]as your other children. It was his choice to turn from you, and so far, he has stayed turned away all of his life. Not your choice and not your doing and you would have had it different if you could have. So I think the right thing is to include him, because those are your true feelings. You love him. You cherish your memories of him. Make that more important than what he has done to you. Figuring this out has been helpful to me too, SWOT. Cedar SWOT, are you certain Gone Boy did not make contact while you were recovering? Though my daughter seemed cognizant at the time, we realized just lately that she remembers nothing about who she spoke with or even, what was said, during the weeks immediately after her traumatic brain injury. [/QUOTE]
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